Beware of workplace PUAs! You have no experience, don't care about salary, work is hard to find, cherish it

Today, let's talk about the topic of PUA in the workplace. I also saw this topic on the Internet before. I really didn't understand what it was when I first came into contact with it, so I checked it.

The so-called PUA means that through long-term mental suppression, you will gradually lose your ability to judge yourself, and you will not be able to recognize yourself. .

In the workplace, for employees who are not particularly experienced, leaders usually say the following:

"You lack experience, and many things need to be learned from scratch. For the time being, don't worry too much about the salary. First, study hard to improve your ability. The company needs to spend a lot of time to cultivate you, and you must cherish the opportunity. After all, it is difficult to find a job now."

When you see this sentence, do you feel a sense of deja vu?

I've read a few posts on a certain platform, and I think some of the statements are still a bit extreme.

It is not denied that there will be such leaders and bosses in the workplace, but it should not be too arbitrary.

Therefore, in the workplace, you can't completely mark what the leader or boss said as a PUA, and he wants to control me.

I think we encounter all kinds of problems in the workplace, all kinds of people.

What matters is not whether others want to control you through mental oppression.

But we have to have a clear self-awareness, and today we will analyze it from four aspects.

01

independent thinking

We all say that going to college is not just about upgrading a diploma or practicing a certain aspect of yourself.

Most importantly, be able to develop the ability to think independently.

If we accept a piece of knowledge or a piece of information, we must know how to distinguish and judge.

If there is something you don't understand, ask for proof. Don't think that what others say is right, this is independent thinking.

I remember a friend who sent me a private message a while ago:

Brother Dong's friend: Brother Dong, the content you shared is really good. You are so right. For me who has not graduated, you are my life mentor.

Brother Dong: "I really don't dare to take it. You can absorb some of the knowledge I share that is useful, but you must know how to distinguish and judge. Because a lot of my content is just my personal opinion, and even a lot of it has shortcomings. In this world No one is necessarily right. So don't easily set up idols for yourself to worship, but you can set an example to learn from."

As I said to this little boy, everyone should not easily set up idols for themselves to worship, but they can set an example to learn from.

If we know how to think independently, know how to analyze and judge specific things.

Whether it is a boss or a leader.

It is impossible to make yourself surrender to him psychologically.

02

learn to fight

After we have our own thinking and analysis, when we encounter injustice or doubt, we must learn to express our attitude.

When expressing your views, be clear and well-founded.

Again, no one is necessarily right.

Know that even very successful bosses and entrepreneurs have made a lot of mistakes along the way.

I have heard a sentence before, the learning process is, approval-doubt-verify-get the answer.

When we were young, we received all the information, and we basically didn't question it, we thought it was: Yes, that's it.

When we have our own ideas through learning, we will have our own views on events, and gradually we will have questions about them.

When in doubt, try to find ways to prove it, and finally come to your own conclusion.

Therefore, when we express our thinking and viewpoints, we must express the conclusions drawn by our own verification process in a well-founded manner.

Beware of workplace PUAs! You have no experience, don't care about salary, work is hard to find, cherish it

03

good emotional management

When we encounter this kind of intentional control at the spiritual level in the workplace, we must do a good job in managing our emotions.

Do not directly confront or express your emotional dissatisfaction because you have your own thoughts and opinions and feel that many leaders are brainwashing you.

Anger reduces one's judgment, and anger and dissatisfaction are not helpful at work.

Manage your emotions well, consider things, not people.

In the workplace, negative emotions have a particularly large impact on the entire team.

Brother Dong had a colleague before. He was a person with a lot of emotional fluctuations. He is also capable and his nature is not bad.

But it's just a trivial matter, and I have to complain to all the people around me. If anyone is uncomfortable, I will keep thinking about it.

In the later stage, the company has opportunities for promotion. Even if his ability and qualifications are outstanding in the department, the company did not promote him in the end.

People with excessive mood swings will offend people without their knowledge.

Therefore, emotional management is crucial in the workplace.

04

Make long-term plans

What if you really encounter such leaders and bosses?

Then make your own long-term plan.

If you are currently working, you can really learn something.

We set the goal to improve ourselves first, and then consider changing jobs after we have certain abilities and conditions.

You know, there are more companies and more bosses.

Not every boss is Bole, and he may not be that horse.

The most important thing is to match, your ability and the enterprise can match.

This includes the matching of individuals and enterprises, the matching of efforts and income, the matching of abilities and positions, the matching of corporate values, and so on.

With long-term rules for your own development, who can control you?

In short, do not easily define the other party as a workplace PUA, but also think more about whether you are lacking in your current capabilities.

But you must learn to think independently, and learn to analyze and judge your own situation.

Do not blindly worship, blindly obey.

Well, today's sharing is here, I hope it will help you.