You said: You are a girl, why do you run so far to go to school or work?
Xiaoling quarreled with her mother on the day the results of the college entrance examination were announced, because the two had disagreements about volunteering.
Who wants to "go to a world with different knowledge", she hopes to apply for Beijing and Shanghai;
But her mother, who has always been conservative, hoped that she would apply for the university in the local provincial capital, be close to home, have relatives and friends, and be familiar with safety.
When the quarrel could not go on, the mother asked heartily:
"You are a girl, why are you taking the exam so far?"
You said: You are a girl, why do you run so far to go to school or work?
Figure | From masterpiece
Does it feel very familiar? When girls are full of hope and want to embrace the world, there will always be relatives and friends around and say:
You are a girl, so what are you fighting for?
You are a girl, the most important thing is to marry a good family!
You are a girl, you must know how to take care of yourself, don't work so hard~
and many more. . . .
Of course, I don't doubt the other party's love for you, and even believe that they are willing to shelter you from the wind and rain, and strive to keep you safe and secure, without having to experience wind and rain.
Of course, you don't have to see a rainbow!
You said: You are a girl, why do you run so far to go to school or work?
Figure | From the Internet
Xiaoling's story comes from "Mom said: "You are a girl, why do you take the exam so far?" Dad's reply exploded the circle of friends.
This story is very, very, very common, and it is not limited to choosing volunteers. In the future, you may encounter the same problem when you choose a city of employment, a job position, continued study, career promotion, etc.
At a party, our friend @JYL asked everyone a question - what do you guys think hurts you the most?
Many boys will feel that some self-confidence words are very hurtful, such as - you are too short, you are not a material to study, you are not suitable for sales and so on.
"It's really hurtful and can make you doubt yourself," said one girl. "But when people say you can't, you still have the opportunity to work hard and prove yourself. For girls, a lot of Sometimes people will say: You are a girl, you don't need, don't need to go... This is actually basically denying you the meaning of doing this."
You said: You are a girl, why do you run so far to go to school or work?
Figure|Beijing Women's Guide
Yes, whether it is concern or discrimination, as girls, we are often tortured like this—
You are a girl, why do you want to. . . . .
And I believe it! People who see this topic and click on it must be the same as @JLY, seeing the harm behind this sentence to the growth of girls.
So, in this case, what is your response? How do you respond to questions that may be meant to be love but limit your pattern?
Welcome to leave a message to tell the story of your choice of school and work (you can also tell me quietly in the background~), it can be a story of regret, or a story of success, share it to give more people some inspiration from different angles!