Without realizing this, self-discipline is self-abuse

Without realizing this, self-discipline is self-abuse

It is not appearances that blind your eyes,

It's that you don't think deeply in your heart at all.

-Yang Ziling

Why do many people admire people who are self-disciplined, but people who are self-disciplined always feel that they have not done anything special, but just live according to their own way of life, that's all.

This is like some people do not like to read and feel that reading is very painful, but some people will suffer only if they do not read every day.

People who are different about the same thing have two mentalities. For people who don't read, the pain is because they know that reading is useful to them, but they just can't sit still and can't read.

The source of the pain was his inability to control his actions.

So whenever I hear someone say that self-discipline is not strong willpower. When I'm not cruel enough to myself, I panic in my heart. Because they subconsciously think that learning itself is a painful thing. If you want to learn, you have to endure the pain.

You probably haven't seen a person who is painfully insisting on something that he thinks is meaningful every day, right?

Because making life meaningful is not about finding pain for yourself, but about taking the things that are meaningful to you as a pleasure. Only in this way can it last for a long time, so that we can experience its benefits and enjoy the happiness it brings to us in the process of doing it.

We often hear people say, I'm a serial entrepreneur. And almost all the listeners are in awe of such people. Because in the public perception, starting a business itself is not easy, but he is a serial entrepreneur. Even some of the social elite "investors" we often hear will favor such people more.

I once had an exchange with a serial entrepreneur, and he said, "Even though starting a business is tiring, I enjoy it, and I think I was born to start a business. Although I haven't succeeded yet, I think I have Faith can do it

If you ask someone who has never thought that way to do it, he will be miserable. He is used to working from 9 to 5, making him work day and night to do a career that he doesn't even know if he can achieve it. The incident itself had already terrified him enough.

It has more to do with personality and more to do with cognition.

It's hard for people who have been staying at the bottom of the well to understand that there is a more colorful world out there.

The Way of Wisdom

Since May 2015, we have started a very, very small thing in the WeChat group that is not worth mentioning. Every day, I insist on posting a sentence of my own sentiments in the group every day, even if it is a sentence that makes me feel sentimental.

At the beginning, there were more people in the group, and later some people felt that this matter was meaningless. Then I chose to quit, and some people suggested that this was too simple. Let's share a book review each week. At that time, several people were struggling in the group because of this. In the end, everyone agreed to share a sentence every day for three months.

It started off well, everyone was sharing, even multiple times a day. But when the excitement of this sharing gradually weakened over time, everyone gradually relaxed their adherence to it. A few days in a month are missed, and then we conduct self-examination and self-reflection. No one is going to talk about insisting on sharing the feeling after reading a book every week.

Until now, we have sorted out the sixth volume, each volume is 100,000 words, and currently it is nearly 600,000 words. Maybe this matter is of little value to others. But for each of us involved, it's really a huge asset, at least psychologically. And every time I talk about this, everyone has a great feeling.

It's not difficult to do a good deed, what is difficult is to do it every day and keep doing it.

Now we have no one to supervise, but we still insist on sharing every day, taking turns to organize into documents.

Self-discipline isn't really that difficult.

The difficulty is that you do not recognize or even reject what you do. If you do something with such an attitude, how can you do it well?

Those who rely on others to supervise and spur them forward every day will never reach their destination. Let some good habits continue to strengthen in the brain, develop habits in the process of continuous practice, and habits become natural.

Being your true self is not about letting you follow your own temperament, but constantly fine-tuning your behavior and the way you do things with changes in the outside world.

There is no entrepreneur who implements his own business plan intact and succeeds in the end. They are constantly fine-tuning, constantly adapting to the market and the audience.

The essence of self-discipline is not to force yourself to do what others think is right. Self-discipline is a kind of belief, a kind of introspection, a kind of self-alert, a kind of self-love, a kind of awareness, it makes you feel happy, calm and calm, strong in your heart, always full of Positive force.