With a monthly salary of 20,000 yuan, he is depressed and can't sleep. I believe you have his problems too.
On weekends, my friend Zhao Di had dinner together. I found that he was in a bad state and asked him if something happened recently? He said that he recently changed jobs. Although his salary has increased a lot, he always feels depressed. Apart from going to work every day, I can't find any way to entertain at all, let alone what I need to add. I bought a lot of books, and I can't read them at all. Watching my friends buy a house, buy a car, get married and have children, I don't even have a girlfriend.
When I first graduated, I felt that everything was still early and there was time, but now I feel more and more helpless to myself. Although my salary is rising, my inner anxiety is not decreasing but increasing. When is this day going to end? A few days ago, he contacted his high school classmates, and his academic performance was not good, but now he is the boss of his own business. And I am guarding this seemingly good job, but I always feel that my life has seen the boss at a glance, what should I do?
With a monthly salary of 20,000 yuan, he is depressed and can't sleep. I believe you have his problems too.
He seemed unable to contain his restless heart, and said a lot in one go. I'm listening, laugh. You know why you're anxious about not getting a raise? He opened his small eyes, which were usually narrowed into slits, and said, you say, you say.
30 years old is really a watershed, many people go downhill unknowingly
The fast pace of life now makes many people unable to step in the rhythm, and it is even more painful for people who have no background. The source of the pain is not whether you want to change, but that you really want to change but you can't. More and more people are buying books. After all, this is the lowest-cost investment, but it is very small to finish reading.
Because work takes up most of your time, especially your friend Zhao Di. For program development, 996 is the norm, and sometimes it is already 11 o'clock when I get home, and it is 12 o'clock after washing up. I don't have time to read at all, and most of the books I buy are like listening to stories on the subway. It's a complete indoctrination, and I don't have my own thinking at all. So the more you listen, the more you think, the more anxious you become.
With a monthly salary of 20,000 yuan, he is depressed and can't sleep. I believe you have his problems too.
Your circle determines your thinking
My friend Zhao Di has changed about three companies in the four years after graduating from university, and the scale of the companies is not very large. Having experienced company closures, delayed wages, being fired, etc., he has always been excellent from high school to university, but after entering a social university, he faced a lot of unhappiness. When he graduated from college, he had the opportunity to enter a big company. When applying for jobs together, his classmates envied him for getting several offers. , have more opportunities to exercise yourself.
But after entering the company, I found that there are indeed more opportunities to exercise myself, but they are all jobs without technical content, because the company has few people, and one person can work with two people. In his words, there are no clear work norms, and many bad habits have been developed. Procrastination at work, so-called brainstorming has turned into a quarrel between colleagues, whoever has the loudest voice and who has the stronger momentum will go according to whoever is louder. This is what he later reflected on himself.
I missed the opportunity to enter a big company, and I failed to improve my personal ability two or three years before graduation. I couldn’t get into a big company, and a small company didn’t want to go. But in the face of the pressure of life, I have no choice but to join a company that is not very satisfied, but the salary is OK.
But my college classmate Zhang Qiang was much more comfortable than him. When he just graduated, he went to a large Internet company for an internship. Although the salary at that time was not high, he had his own understanding. Change jobs after more than two years at a big company. The technology has been greatly improved, and good habits have been developed at work. Never let work occupy your "spare time". Although he often works overtime, many of the overtime work is for the second day's work, that is, he will start any work ahead of time and enjoy his weekend time. Not only has his skills improved, but the company leaders appreciate his way of doing things. In his spare time, he studied financial management and investment, and was also called "the god of stocks" by our classmates. His state is completely different from that of Zhao Di.
When you enter a company easily, you should not feel lucky but feel a sense of crisis, because most of the people around you come in after interviews that are similar to what you have experienced. And if you have been through layers of screening, although the pressure is very high, you should be more proud, because no one around you is "infiltrated". The environment around you is bound to have an effect on you, for better or worse, especially at the level of thinking. So, the circle determines your thinking!
With a monthly salary of 20,000 yuan, he is depressed and can't sleep. I believe you have his problems too.
Your thinking determines your actions!
It's hard to tell someone who hasn't seen an elephant what an elephant looks like! If you don't have a basic understanding of something in your brain, it's hard to understand what it's talking about.
With a monthly salary of 20,000 yuan, he is depressed and can't sleep. I believe you have his problems too.
thinking determines action
Only when you recognize the problem in your mind will you act. Action is the first step to changing the status quo. Speaking of this topic, I thought of a classmate in high school who went to work in the factory run by his uncle before graduating from high school. Although he is not good at studying, he is very good at "mixing society". A few years ago, because his uncle's factory could not be maintained, he simply took out a loan to take over the factory and became his own boss. Because many customers are in his hands, and he often organizes some dinner parties, most of the contacts he knows are some shop owners.
According to him, he borrowed about 400,000 yuan in the first year, changed a new production line, and started a home improvement business. This year's classmates reunion home, the young man driving a BMW is very enviable. Many classmates who have gone to college, discuss together how your company is? What's the salary like. And as soon as he opened his mouth, did he want to develop in his hometown, open a store, I can decorate here, and the raw materials for the home improvement can be credited to you, how about getting him a ticket? Then I will analyze the current county town, where the real estate is opened, and which community has started to be decorated. Many students expressed their admiration for this combination of punches, and it really is the material for doing business.
With a monthly salary of 20,000 yuan, he is depressed and can't sleep. I believe you have his problems too.
In fact, no one is born with materials for doing business or learning. It is the circle you are in that determines your thinking, and your thinking determines your actions.
At the beginning of this year, primary school classmates set up a WeChat group and found that only three people in the class of more than 40 people went to college, and most of the others went out to work after graduating from high school. The most talked about in the group is which construction site is not hiring? How are the conditions in your factory? You will find that you can't fit in at all, and you have nothing to say.
Sometimes it is not because there is nothing to say for a long time, but because the circle is different and the thinking and cognition are different.
With a monthly salary of 20,000 yuan, he is depressed and can't sleep. I believe you have his problems too.
Summary: Step out of your own circle and start with action
No matter what state you are in now, I hope you can seriously think about the circle you are in and whether you can achieve the life you want here. Many times, it’s not that we haven’t thought about the future, but after thinking about it, we look at the people around us, and we actually see a kind of powerlessness.
Your supervisor has worked for ten years, and it's still the same, ask yourself. Is it the life you don't want to be in charge of ten years from now? Don't stay too long in an environment where you can see your head at a glance, or you'll think this is your life! You can decide your life entirely by yourself, jump out of your own circle, link up with people who are better than yourself, and enter a better circle is what a confused person should do, instead of voluntarily self-pity and self-pity.
May you try to jump out of your own circle and start with action! One of the scariest thoughts is that I know I need to change, but I just can't. The best way to read a book is to sit down and open the book. If you want to write, you must first turn on the computer, open the document and start. Once you take the first step, the rest will take its course!