The 5 most common offending behaviors, what should you do?

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In the workplace, what behaviors are easy to offend people? Recently, I have offended a colleague for some unknown reason. I don't know where the problem is, and I feel aggrieved and distressed.

The 5 most common offending behaviors, what should you do?

Whether it's for ourselves, for friends, or for morality, we all know why we offend people, and we can all admit it!

However, sometimes, it is completely unintentional, and it is a sinner inexplicably, which is indeed quite a loss.

First of all, in the workplace, the following behaviors are indeed easy to offend people.

First, say negative things and say them aggressively.

It's like suffocating someone with a stick, like—

Someone has a new hairstyle, and you come up and say, it's too ugly, it's more than ten years old!

If someone else has something to ask you for help, I don't even listen to it, just reject it, I'm still busy!

You may not have a bad heart, or you may be really busy, but if you keep talking like this, you will easily offend people.

Second, when speaking, habitually use rhetorical questions.

When we were in school, we learned that using rhetorical questions has the effect of strengthening the tone. Of course, the teacher didn't lie to you, it does have the effect of strengthening the tone, so it is easy for people to feel that they are reprimanding. for example--

Method 1: The eraser is on the bookshelf in front of you

Method 2: Isn't the eraser on the bookshelf in front of you? !

Of course, if negation + rhetorical question, it is even more difficult to accept, such as the same words, say:

Are you blind? Isn't the eraser on the bookshelf in front of you? !

If you say this, it is estimated that colleagues who are looking for rubber would rather buy a new one by themselves than ask you.

Therefore, the way of speaking is often an important "method" to offend people unintentionally.

Third, divulge other people's secrets.

In addition to the way of speaking, the content of the speech also needs attention. Sometimes people take you as their own and tell you some personal secrets. However, you may not take it seriously and say it to others.

In this case, of course, people will be offended.

Remember! To prevent inadvertently offending people, you must start by "controlling" your mouth.

The 5 most common offending behaviors, what should you do?

Fourth, offending in the interests of work.

If it is to compete for a position or to win a client, then it is not uncommon to offend others in terms of work interests.

If you just "can't keep your mouth shut", after a long time, everyone knows that there is no bad intentions, and it is easy to be forgiven.

However, in actual work, there is another situation where one is unintentional and offends people in the interests of work. Let’s take an example.

Once, during a meeting in the company, Xiao A made a small mistake that no one else saw, and it was corrected in time.

During the tea break, the boss rested and chatted with his colleagues. This was Xiao B jokingly talking about Xiao A's mistake just now.

After the meeting, little A ignored little B for a long time, and little B still didn't know how he offended little A.

This is a real case. Xiao B felt that he was just joking, and in order to liven up the atmosphere, he did not mean to belittle Xiao A on purpose. However, from the perspective of small A, it is completely different.

There is another kind of offending people in the interests of work, which is to steal the limelight or do a disservice to others. for example--

If you take over the work that Xiao A is responsible for, you directly take over it, and the result is successful. If you are praised by the leader, Xiao A will naturally be unhappy; When he does, he will naturally blame you in his heart.

Frankly speaking, for the above 4 types, don't say that you didn't mean it, that you were wronged, etc. The most fundamental reason is that you don't care about other people's feelings!

The 5 most common offending behaviors, what should you do?

Finally, there is another way to offend people, which is when you are valued or promoted.

This situation is also very common. Originally everyone entered the company together or they were all on the same level, but suddenly you get the attention of the leader or get a promotion and a salary increase.

At this time, the original colleague began to look at you unpleasantly. Usually, some ordinary words may cause the other party to care; very ordinary behaviors will make you unhappy.

This kind of situation will generally fade over time. We can do our best to be more disciplined and self-discipline, and we don’t have to take it too seriously.