Interpersonal communication is slow, and it is often only after the fact that the meaning of the other party is understood. What should I do?
Interpersonal communication is slow, and it is often only after the fact that the meaning of the other party is understood. What should I do?
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I find that my instant reaction ability is a little slow, and I often only understand the real meaning of the other party's words after thinking about it. In this way, I sometimes seem slow or even a little stupid in interpersonal communication, and I also become very unconfident. When encountering a meeting or dinner scene Just nervous, is there any way to improve this ability?
Interpersonal communication is slow, and it is often only after the fact that the meaning of the other party is understood. What should I do?
This experience of feeling "slow in response" is something many people will have. Let us analyze it from two aspects.
First, self-examination of "symptoms".
Is there any difference between online typing communication and face-to-face communication?
Is online typing and chatting very fast and clear, while face-to-face chat is easy to slow? Still very slow? The self-examination of this question is to find out the reason, whether it is a problem of unconnected ideas or a communication problem in social interaction.
Second, prescribe medicine for "symptoms".
- Aiming at the problem that the ideas cannot be connected.
This kind of thinking can't catch up with the "slow response" that everyone will encounter.
It may be that you do not understand the other person's style and context, or that your knowledge reserves are different. For example, the big master actually wants to talk to Sister Mendao about the two-dimensional bloody anime, but she often tells a super fun stalk, and Sister Mendao, who is addicted to Xianxia dramas, is just silent. In this case, if you are just chatting casually, don't worry too much.
If the other party is someone who is very important to you, or the conversation is very important, then you need to do some information collection work in advance, such as the other party's life style, their background (such as education, background, family, age), this conversation background information, etc. Consciously building information reserves for others is the key to smooth communication.
- Problems with social communication
A slow response in social communication is not necessarily a bad thing, it may just be your style, such as—
You are pure and focused. That is, you are less likely to imagine the various complex backgrounds of the other person's sentence or that there is something in the words, but to understand the literal meaning.
You are sensitive and delicate. That is, they will think a lot before responding, neither want to hurt others, but also worry that what they say is inappropriate, so they cannot respond immediately. Such people are often very serious and easily nervous.
In this case, we don't necessarily have to pursue the feeling of being exquisite, and it is good to be able to communicate normally according to our own style. You may also find that quiet, composed communication works better for you.
If you feel that it really affects your life and work, you must not deliberately avoid communication because of this, but take the initiative to increase the number of communication with others.
Finally, let me tell you quietly that it is not always a good thing to react too quickly, there will be two "traps"
One is that they follow the path guided by the other party because they are too fast, but instead fall into the trap deliberately set by the other party.
The other is because it is too fast to really understand the meaning of the other party, and then thinks that he understands.