I don’t know if you have heard of it, but there is a saying: if you are not strong, your colleagues will bully you; if you are strong, your colleagues will be jealous of you, and ask the experts how to break through?

I felt ridiculous when I saw this question. However, after chatting in the group, I found that many friends have heard similar words, especially for newcomers in the workplace, they really don't know what to do.

The little friends who have this question are all diligent and good-natured, so I decided to talk about this question seriously.

First of all, whoever said this to you, you should block him!

Once, believe this sentence will practice this sentence. Just think about it: if you are strong, he will be jealous, if you are not strong, he will bully. Why do such people stay around?

Second, even if there is such a phenomenon, even if the other party emphasizes that "I'm not such a person, I just kindly mention you", but what is the use and value of the summary of this phenomenon? Tell you the dilemma, then what? Add to worry?

So don't think I'm being mean, well-intentioned or not, and try to stay away from people who believe it, it doesn't hurt.

Second, is this really the case? At least not entirely.

We can combine our own experience with good memories:

1. When we are not strong, are we all bullied? For example, when we are not familiar with the business, when we ask others for advice, is there really no one to tell us? Another example, when we need to ask for leave for personal reasons, is there no one to help with the work at hand? Or when we are not strong and are criticized by leaders or teachers, do colleagues or classmates gloat over their misfortunes?

2. When we are strong, are we all jealous? For example, when you help a colleague solve a problem, won't the other party thank you? For another example, are the leaders unhappy when they help the company bring in business? When we speak at conferences, does no one come to recognize us with kind compliments?

Think about it carefully, your experience must not be all the dark experience of human nature, otherwise, the environment here is like hell. What we need to consider is not "how to break through" but "how to leave".

Third, what should we do?

I'm not a master, and I rarely encounter the situation of "being bullied when I'm weak, and being envied when I'm strong". But after all these years, I have a first-hand experience of being bullied and envied by others. Many workplace people around me will not simply think that the workplace is all about love and cuteness. But responding to the negative with the negative is inefficient or even ineffective. I advocate deconstructing the negative with the positive. So, about how to do it, my answer is: to be a normal person, do what you want to do.

1. Work hard to improve your ability , don't care whether others are jealous or not, make yourself valuable in order to have better adaptability and competitiveness, which no one can take away.

2. Actively act, within the scope of responsibility, to turn your potential into performance. Of course, the workplace has boundaries, and it is not recommended to go beyond the boundaries to handle work in non-emergency situations. However, within the scope of their own responsibilities, then do my part! Take the initiative to seize the opportunity to practice, and turn the potential that you think you should have into performance. After all, when writing a resume, you can't say what I think I should be able to do well, it must be what I have done well.

But don't give the opportunity to practice to others in order to stay out of the limelight within the scope of your own responsibilities! Look a little farther and look at your entire career. You don't necessarily stay in one unit or position for the rest of your life, and you won't be surrounded by these people forever. So, don't be silly! A common sense that must be understood is that work not only brings us salary, but also brings us opportunities to improve ourselves. If this opportunity is not seized, don’t we get less than others for the same salary?

3. Respect for others : When we become stronger and stronger, we may indeed be able to stand out. At this time, we must pay attention to respecting others in language and behavior. This is a minimum quality. If you say that you look down on others because of some achievements, then you are not wronged when you are attacked by the masses.

Fourth, what if someone is like this?

1. If someone is really jealous of you because you are strong. Then, we can check for ourselves whether we are too arrogant. But if not, let him be, the other party must choose to make himself uncomfortable to deal with the fact that we are strong, what can we do? Let him go!

2. If someone really bullies you because you are not strong. Then, forget the simple and not serious, don’t worry about it, after all, our energy and time need to be used to improve ourselves, that is, to become stronger. but! If the other party is excessive or even insulting, then leave evidence, publicly report to the superior, complain, and directly strive for their rights and interests.

It’s just work, even if the ability is not good, it’s a big deal to be dismissed (there is no reasonable evidence that an enterprise has no right to unilaterally dismiss, and economic compensation is required to terminate the labor contract through negotiation), and we can’t bully people. We are definitely not bullied when we come to work.

Finally, tell you a little trick:

I used to be in the workplace, and I was promoted every year and got a raise every year. I have never encountered this kind of jealousy, especially direct jealousy. One of the most important reasons is that I have a relationship with my immediate leaders. I have a strong relationship; and fortunately, my immediate leaders have a good relationship with the big boss, and I have a good relationship with the big boss. I am the person with the "roots and seedlings" in the legendary company.

I can't be naive to think that other colleagues treat me well and that there is no intrigue on my team, but the attitude of the core leadership does play an important role. Therefore, in addition to the three points in the third article just shared, another little tip is to stay as close as possible to the company's core business (even if you are an administrative personnel, don't stay away from the core business), and keep consistent with the company's general direction , there will be a lot less bad things like this.