'Excuse me, what's the point of the first job? '

In WeChat, in the offline course, a girl who took the initiative to add friends on the spot suddenly sent a message, she said:

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Excuse me, what is the point of the first job? !

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Obviously, this is a word with no beginning and no end;

Long-term professional counseling experience tells me that although there is little information, there is a deep sense of frustration and anxiety in my face.

So, instead of answering her question, I asked her: Why do you ask that? What makes you have such doubts?

After a while, she texted me, saying-

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I was originally a graduate of a key university, but I didn’t get any good offers in order to prepare for the national exam when I was recruiting in the autumn.

In the spring, after failing the national examination, I found that there were significantly fewer companies coming back to the school to recruit, and I could only find a medium-sized private enterprise in the end.

I have been working for a year now. My work is simple and repetitive every day, and I can't learn anything at all. The gap between my classmates is getting bigger and bigger, and my income is also low.

People say that the first job determines the future development, because I made the wrong choice at the beginning, so I am making a wrong step and a wrong step now? !

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"Excuse me, what's the point of the first job?"

Sure enough, I was worried that the girl was going through a very difficult time. When we encounter setbacks, we are more willing to believe such words, because from the results of many people, this argument of "one step is wrong, one step is wrong" seems to be correct.

(Actually, when you think about it, you're always in a bad situation.)

Clearly, the first job makes sense.

I think everyone should be someone they like in their first job. The sooner you fall in love with yourself, the better.

In the first job, becoming a star employee is more likely to get rid of negative and negative professional inertia in the future.

In the first job, I gained fulfillment and recognition, and adhered to positive values. In the future, when I hated myself, someone in my heart would stand up and say something nice to me.

For many people, after 10 years in the workplace, what affects their development the most is not their personal connections and professional skills, but that they don't like themselves, and then they are controlled by negativity and bad habits.

Therefore, the first job is to make yourself like the "self at work". Then, you must have the courage first. This is the most important advice I give you for your first job. The following are specific suggestions:

First, if you have a clear goal, then the first job is to find and find it, and it will not be easy.

Second, when you're hired, keep yourself positive and look positive. You can arrive early, you can take the initiative to speak, and you can cooperate with the boss more kindly. Don't be afraid of old employees calling you "a newcomer".

Third, if you see something you don't like, don't let yourself get caught up in the hatred. Young you, as well as capital, believe that "the world is beautiful".

Finally, even if someone insists on doing something bad with you (such as breaking the rules), you must have the perseverance to refuse.

I hope that everyone can be a star employee in every job. This high-spirited spirit will nourish your career for decades to come.

The first job is a brick in growth, nothing more.

We don't need to overstate the importance of "first job" at all. And I've always felt that society as a whole has exaggerated the meaning of the first job, and this needs to be corrected.

This erroneous exaggeration leads us to constantly stress when we counsel girls in their careers every day: the first job is nothing.

If you fail to take this step well, there are still many more steps to take in the future.

If you don't have a halo at your first job, then you'll have a halo later on.

If you didn't like your first job, find another one you like.

Life is not over, it is never the end.

Even the first job did not meet my "make you love yourself at work" condition, such as your first job, immersed in a very bad atmosphere all day long.

For example: the work is meaningless, the platform is not dynamic, the people around you are not disciplined, you hate them, and at the same time you are unknowingly contaminated with their emotions and behaviors, and then you feel that you can't do anything about it.

This is probably the worst case for the first job, but as long as there is time, we can still leave and ask ourselves to change.

It's like, I was on the road, looking for a restaurant to eat, and after thinking about it, I walked into a noodle restaurant. As a result, after ordering, I found that I was very disappointed: the food tasted bad and the service was not good.

If you are not nervous about time and money, you can choose not to eat and find another one; if you are short of time or you are afraid of wasting it, you can just eat it.

Don't worry, even if you eat it, it doesn't matter. We will eat many times in our life. There will be better and worse, but it will not affect our ability to continue eating.

In the same way, the first job is not a lifetime thing, I have the opportunity to do it all over again, and even feel ashamed.

It's simple logic, don't be limited.

Stressing the importance of the first job over and over again underestimates our vitality.

WeChat searches for the meaning of the first job, and you will see the following arguments:

The first job determines your starting point, determines what you will be like 10 years later,

The first job determines your knowledge and vision, and determines your future

……

Behind this argument, it is as if those of us, after the first job, are left to eat and wait to die.

In our culture, there has always been a very narrow and mean understanding of age, which constantly emphasizes what age should be, as if everyone in the world should be carved with the same mold, and there cannot be any deviation.

This is a false proposition in itself, but this, for girls, is an invisible sense of oppression and anxiety.

Therefore, on Weibo, the questions I receive the most are:

I'm 30 years old, is it okay to change careers?

I'm 40 years old and I still work for others. Should I start a business?

I'm 28 years old and I'm not married yet. I'm a failure, what should I do?

What kind of job is suitable for a 30-year-old woman?

Look, these problems seem to use time to bind us to a particularly cramped environment - this is the time, I can only do this.

However, I think that before the moment of death, we must have the mentality of "it's not a loss".

Time is a cost in our hands, not a roadmap that defines our success or failure.

Going back to the original question, what is the point of the first job?

The first job is of course very important, and if possible, we need to go all out to get the best opportunity we can. This will give us a real platform, circle, vision and confidence.

However, the judging criteria for the first job are not only the famous brand companies and high-paying treatment, but also how we treat the first job. It is hard work, like a sponge, to the best of our ability to absorb it. Energy; still complaining all the time, anxious that he will never have a chance to flop again.

We have repeatedly shared it in our push, and LinkedIn data tells you that the average first job after 1995 is 7 months.

If you are dissatisfied with the first job, the most critical question is not to ask: what is the meaning of the first job; it is to re-find the most desirable opportunity and go all out to make up for it.

So, of course, the first job is meaningful, the second job is also very meaningful, and so on, every thing you spend time and experience doing is very meaningful.

In this process, due to internal and external factors, there may be unsatisfactory situations at any stage, and at any stage there is an opportunity to reverse the trend.

Finally, I really like Eileen Chang's explanation of life experience in "Rumors":

We read love novels first, and then we learn about love. Our experience of life is often second-round, with the help of artificial drama.

Therefore, this view of viewing the time scale as crucial, so important that you are unable to resist, is nothing more than asking us to follow someone else's script and carry out the second round of interpretation.

Finally, let me emphasize again: the first job is just the first job on the time scale.

Of course it is important, but we are the masters who experience it and operate it.