Refuse to help, be sure to use these 3 methods! Not only does it not offend people, but it also leaves them speechless!
In the workplace, we must be familiar with such situations: colleagues ask us for help, but we have too much work at hand to be busy; or we just don’t want to help. So they will find various reasons to refuse.
Today, the author will share with you 3 ways to refuse to help, not only not to offend others, but also to make them speechless!
- I also really want to help you, but I have work arranged by the leader =========================================================================
Wang Lei is a very good-tempered young man, so some old employees in the company like to ask Wang Lei to help with running errands, printing, and doing things. In the beginning, Wang Lei directly rejected the request of his colleagues because of his bad face, so he took over and helped. However, Wang Lei also has his own job, and he has to work overtime.
Later, Wang Lei learned to be good, as long as someone asked him for help, but he didn't want to help, so he said: "I want to help you too, but there is work arranged by President Wang, and she is anxious for the result. I am now I really don't have time to help you." Usually, the other party won't say anything after hearing these words. If you encounter someone who is abusive, add another sentence to the other party: "Okay, then I will tell the leader first, and I will give her the result later." The leader's face is bigger, or the other party's face is bigger?
When we really don't want to help, we must find a reason why the other party can't continue to ask you to do things. And as the saying goes, "the first level of the official university crushes people", and the leadership has become the best shield.
In addition, what should you do if you encounter false rumors that the leader agrees with you to help? At this point you should say: "I see. I will report the progress of the project to the leader now, and then I will start doing your business." Everything is carried out according to the rules and procedures, and the other party has nothing to say.
- Yes, but can you wait for a while? =====================================
Sometimes, because a colleague has helped me before, or they have a good relationship with each other, saying that I don’t have time to help at this time will definitely make the other person unhappy. At this time, you can say something like: "Since you have said it all, I will definitely help with this, but can I wait for a while? I am done with my work here, and I will help you immediately, even if I have to work overtime at night."
The art of these few sentences is to first lower the other party's expectations of yourself, and then pull them up. See if the other party can accept the compromise that things can't be done right away. If the other party thinks that they are embarrassing you, they will naturally not continue to ask you for help.
- There is a part I don't understand, can you do this part first? ==================================================================
We can’t always use the above two methods to reject others. When you ask for help at the same time, you can say: “I see that some business in this job is not related to me, and I don’t know how to do it. Why don't you start and finish this part first? Well, I'm in a hurry, and when you're done, I can just finish my work and go on to yours."
This has two meanings: one is that the other party has done the part related to their business, maybe the other party feels that the workload is less and they don't need to ask you for help; the other is to buy time for themselves. Because we can't control when the things at hand are finished, and we have the final say. Maybe the other party can't wait to do it himself.
In the workplace, what do you say when you want to refuse to help a colleague? Welcome to share in the comment section!