Different circles, different lives, masters choose circles like this!
When a person is in a bad circle, he can't help himself, and many things cannot be controlled; on the contrary, if a person enters a good circle, when he suffers setbacks, he will be encouraged by the people in the circle. Mencius' mother moved three times, just to give her children a good circle. From this point of view, the influence of a circle on a person is really great. Therefore, when entering a circle, we need to identify the circle with sharp eyes.
Many friends especially like to join other people's circles, and they don't care what the people in the circle do, whether they are in harmony with themselves, as long as they enter, they will be very happy. Whether it is in the venture capital circle or the photography circle, there are his figures. However, after getting along for a while, you will find that certain circles are not suitable for you, and you have taken many detours in vain, wasting a lot of time, and it is not good for your future development. When experts choose a circle, they will pay attention to the following two points:
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First, determine the general direction of your future development. Join some circles that are more consistent and close in this direction. For example, if you like basketball, you will choose to join a basketball club; if you like running, you will join a marathon team.
Second, choose a circle of equal ability. Excellent circles can achieve resource exchange, but the premise is that you also provide resources to the circle. Even if an ordinary person joins the circle of Ma Yun and Ma Huateng, it is of no use. Because, you cannot bring benefits to the circle, you can only be at the edge of the circle.
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Whether choosing or establishing a circle that suits them, experts generally follow the following principles:
- The like-me principle ========================
The so-called self-like principle refers to the tendency to choose those who are similar in experience, educational background, world view, etc.
People who are similar to themselves. Simply put, the class me is another self. Because everyone thinks alike, they tend to take the same actions as you when faced with an uncertain situation. Because the experience and educational background are relatively similar, the communication cost is relatively low, and the work efficiency will be much higher.
- The principle of proximity =============================
The so-called proximity principle refers to the person who spends the longest time with you in the social network of office workers. Strong social relationships cannot be established with just one sentence. It is necessary to get in touch with some activities that involve interests, in order to connect everyone closely. The biggest advantage of a good circle is that everyone can benefit. It should not be a think tank for one person, but a support army for everyone.
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It is worth reminding that the purpose of establishing circles is not to use circles. In today's era, various circles emerge in an endless stream, either for fame or for profit. Although the number of circles has grown by leaps and bounds, the quality has seriously declined, and too many utilitarian colors have made everyone take precautions. Just thinking about using the circle, everyone may agree at first, but sooner or later they will wake up and stay away from you.
What kind of person you are close to, what kind of road you will take; poker friends will only urge you to play poker, drink friends will only urge you to toast; and reliable people will infect you how to make progress; the greatest luck of people is not Picking up money is not a lottery; it is someone who can encourage you, guide you, and help you; the so-called noble person is not someone who directly brings you benefits; it is someone who broadens your horizons and gives you positive energy. .