Why are you reasoning with me?

If the person who is reasoning with me has never done it well, then I choose not to listen.

There was a scene last year that impressed me.

Three former colleagues and I ran into a department head from many years ago, and we invited him to dinner. The former supervisor had an average relationship with us, and had no friendship. Back then, he was all about flattering the boss to be harsh on us. I invited him to dinner because it was time for dinner.

After so many years, the former executive has always been doing his original job in the original company, holding the original income, and the weak growth in income did not even outperform the CPI. And the worst among the four of us is worth more than a hundred times his.

During the meal, he didn't talk to us about feelings, not the past, and he was not interested in our experiences and gains over the years, but just like more than ten years ago, in the tone of our leaders, he told us all kinds of truths about how to behave in the world, Various experiences in work, flaunting their various realms and brilliance. We just listened and added a few words.

In fact, he is not qualified to teach us these things.

It is love for us to lift you up, but you have to abide by the social rules and the duty of social class.

If you understood these principles better than we do, it would not be like this by now.

There are always people who misunderstand others' politeness as their own.

In the current society, I am afraid of listening to people in their 20s and 30s talking about life, and I am also afraid of listening to some people who have never been successful before.

I am tired of people who have never had a decent entrepreneurial and management experience engaging in training to talk about entrepreneurship and management;

I deeply hate some people who are unsuccessful in managing their own lives and relationships, but always instruct others to do this and that;

Some women have divorced themselves or have not married a good husband, so they always spread negative and dark remarks through various channels to affect the people around them and people on the Internet. The slogan they play is a warning from someone who has come over. In fact, they don't want others to live better than themselves;

One of the most frightening things in the world is knowing that you are the same age and experience as others, but always inexplicably confident that you know more than others.

Many people may well-meaningly tell me at various stages of my life that I should "change my character" because "it will suffer." In fact, over the years, I have never suffered a loss because of my character.

The so-called loss is probably to offend people, and if they offend people, they will lose social resources.

But why am I afraid of offending people?

When you are careful to maintain social resources, I rely on my sincerity, wisdom, diligence, and ability to exchange social resources. There is no need to be careful with everyone.

I have never offended any of my friends because of my character, on the contrary our friendship is more sticky.

If the person I have offended really has the social resources I need, he will not give it to me, because I can give him what he needs.

As long as you don't fall below the bottom line, your character doesn't matter whether it's good or bad, and whether others look good or bad is rooted in your ability. Any character paired with good abilities looks great. Or if it's not good, others have to accept it.

Many years ago my boss wasted my reading time and asked me to listen to some so-called famous teacher's seminars, aiming to improve the teaching level, I thought it was funny and flatly refused. Teaching is purely practical and has strong indicators, and it is clear at a glance whether it is good or bad. You asked some people who were slammed off the podium by students and had nothing but age and business cards to talk about teaching for me who had zero bad reviews since my debut?

In my professional field, I can discuss it, I can tell it to others, and others can tell it to me, but I can’t. This has nothing to do with arrogance.

My humility is in the face of vast knowledge and profound professionalism, my humility is in the face of the height I want to achieve with my own painstaking efforts, my humility is in the face of all the normal and demanding needs of students, and my humility is in the face of China The road to education of Yanlu and Lanluo does not include anyone's face.