Forced marriage at the end of the year, a helpless family game, has become a problem for the elites in the workplace?

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The day before yesterday, when I was robbing a ticket to go home during the Spring Festival, Pharaoh accidentally asked a beautiful woman, what time do you plan to go home? The beauty said helplessly and didn't want to go home. The first thing she saw when she saw her parents was either asking when to get married or forcing herself to go on a blind date. It seems that forced marriage and forced blind date have become a problem for the elites in the workplace, and it is also the reason why they are reluctant to go home.

Parents, do you understand?

With the Spring Festival approaching, many working families are eager to go home. But some young people worry: as soon as they get home, they will be bombarded by a lot of relatives and friends - "Have you talked to someone?" "You are not too young, when will you get married?" "Why aren't you married yet?", "You're almost thirty, why don't you have a girlfriend yet?" "Get married soon, Aunt Zhang next door already has a grandson." What's even more outrageous is that a girl jumped off the building to escape her father's forced marriage. .

These have become elites in the workplace who want to go home, but have no choice but to be forced to marry and blind date after returning home. They have no choice but to spend the Spring Festival alone in an empty city during the Spring Festival on the grounds of working overtime during the Spring Festival.

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Forced marriage is a unique way of life in China, but why does forced marriage occur? In order to understand this unique social problem, Lao Wang consulted a lot of materials and made a summary.

1. The selfishness of the parents is too much in the world's view of their own family. Many parents, after reaching a certain age, do not live in their own happy world, but in someone else's world. Why do you say that? Because when parents see their children grow up, they always like to compare things in other people's homes with things in their own homes. When they feel that their children are not as good as others or hear other people's comments on their family, they have the idea that iron is not steel. . This idea of ​​living in someone else's world hurts the hearts of countless children.

Lao Wang suggested that parents, especially those of a certain age, only need to consider their own happy life, spend their later years in joy and happiness, and don't care about their children's affairs. Because children are older, they have their own thinking and social circles.

However, Lao Wang also suggested that working people, if you want to keep your parents from worrying about yourself, you must do things and careers that your parents won't worry about, otherwise your parents will never give up worrying about you. What a pity for the parents of the world!

2. The old idea of ​​inheriting the lineage is an unchangeable reality of forced marriage. Many parents think that having children is for the purpose of inheriting the family and for the aged. This is influenced by five thousand years of feudal ideology, do not want them. As a professional elite, how to change?

Lao Wang believes that it is necessary to communicate and communicate with parents more, so that they can realize that having children is not just as simple as traditional succession, but to realize young people's pursuit of dreams, career aspirations and family happiness. Although it is difficult to change the inherent thinking of parents, it is still necessary to communicate with parents more. Don’t let parents worry about themselves. Let yourself become the capital of parents to show off, and satisfy parents’ sense of superiority and show off. Parents know that it is not easy for you to live outside, so that parents will understand you and support you!

3. Parents are afraid of loneliness, insecure, and worried that they will have nowhere to go. This is also something that all parents in the world are worried about. It is related to the social pension system. Today, we do not discuss social issues, but only consider our own issues.

When people get old, they will feel insecure, but they can't see their children, and they worry that they will have no one to support them when they grow old. As a child, I can understand. But sometimes, it is a helpless and unavoidable topic for the workplace elites who are working hard outside, especially those who have come out of the countryside. If you are still working hard for your dreams, it is difficult to solve these problems. It is nothing more than giving your parents more money; but with a little achievement, it is difficult to solve these problems after getting married. Because the living habits of parents and their own and their other half's thinking habits and living habits are no longer the same, this will cause many problems. For the elites in the workplace, sometimes they are really helpless, and one of them is the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law.

In any case, when parents are old, they must have a sense of security. The only thing that can be done is to spend more time at home to accompany them and give them more money, so that they can have a happy and dark old age.

refuse forced marriage

Forced marriage for the workplace elite is also a pain that the workplace elite cannot erase, but how to change it? Lao Wang believes that while pursuing a career, when you meet a suitable partner, you should choose to get married as soon as possible. Don't be illusory. You always see that the outside world is more exciting, the girls outside are more beautiful, and the handsome guys outside are more handsome. If you have this mentality, it only means that you don't know what you want. I also want children to chase toys generally just look at their mood.

Start a family and start a business, why put a family in front of building a business? It is to start a family first, and then start a business. Having a stable family atmosphere can stabilize one's xinxing. When thinking alone, one will have more responsibilities, more responsibilities, and more worries. Do things calmly. There are too many safflowers, where can I read them all? Different mood is naturally different vision.

If you have different opinions and suggestions, please leave a message to tell Lao Wang, or we can interact and discuss together, so as to clarify the essence of the matter and facilitate our growth and provision.