Women in the workplace work too hard, will no one love them?
Although the times have progressed to the point where Liu Tao has changed from Arjuna to Andy, when it comes to the word "strong woman", many men can't help but take a deep breath.
As long as a woman shows her face in the workplace, dares to fight, and earns some money by finding an official and half-job, the high hat of a strong woman will be put on her head involuntarily.
I think the word "strong woman" is more derogatory. It seems that women are inherently weaker, and if they do a little bit of achievement, someone will say: "Okay, it's okay, you've done your best, if you try harder She's going to be a strong woman in no time."
More importantly, it seems that "strong woman" means only work, no fun, no happy family, and no one loves her.
In the workplace circle in Beijing, Lao Wang has met a lot of powerful women. Among them, there are rich female billionaires, female designers who speak well, and female directors who are still graceful.
Originally, they were all well-deserved "winners", superior in elegant temperament, extraordinary experience, and generous income. There are both plump breasts and plump pockets .
However, "time is a knife, and a knife makes people grow old." In the cruel arena of time, they did not find a favorite, deeply loved, wanted, dear person to bid farewell to being single, but instead let them The relatives and friends around them felt the pressure, so they all became "leftover women" who were not interested in them, and became "single nuisances" that "no one loves and no one loves" in Jolin Tsai's mouth.
Is excellence a mistake?
You work hard, you are motivated, you work hard, so you deserve no one to love and no one to love?
Pharaoh asked a few good buddies around him: Are you willing to marry a woman who is better than you in every way? The answer is mostly: better not.
They feel that women are too strong and difficult to control, and their status is not valued.
Pharaoh thinks that this is actually the machismo and inferiority of Chinese men at work. On the surface, men are very powerful, they are all gladiators, and they all have heroic complexes. Wild animals, he is most afraid that the woman around him will be better than himself.
The more capable a woman is and the better her condition is, the more panic and help a man becomes, the more his sense of accomplishment and satisfaction will become a tree without roots, without a source of water, and his heroic complex will have nowhere to be released. Because men love face the most and are most afraid of showing their incompetence in front of capable women.
Remember Mr. Qian Zhongshu's exquisite speech in "Besieged City"? "Chinese women are the most difficult to control after reading a few sentences. Men must be one level higher than her, and can never be equal to her. Therefore, college graduates can only marry middle school girls, and international students can marry college girls. Women can get a doctorate by studying abroad. Foreigners dare to marry her, otherwise the man is at least a double doctor. In short, marrying a woman must be better than my family, and marrying a woman must be inferior to my family. "
For many years, Chinese women have married their husbands with a look-up mentality with a certain adoration: they must be taller than me, older than me, better educated than me, better in status than me, and have to earn more. More than me...just the opposite of Chinese men's downward-looking psychology of marrying wives.
You deserve to be loved by better people
More and more strong women in this society are putting more pressure and expectations on men. In fact, fundamentally, those men who think women are "strong women" are because they are weak, have less psychological pressure, and are less able to work. Poor, low status.
As there is a saying: " For the uncle who watches the door, the women sitting in the office are all capable and strong women."
The strong woman can't find a suitable partner, but she has already reached the top of the mountain with an altitude of 3000, but she always wanders on the top of the mountain with an altitude of 2000 to find a partner. You are going to a higher altitude group and enter a higher-end social circle , to find a man of equal strength.
Lao Wang has read an article and said this: Whether strong women are strong or not depends on the group you correspond to. I believe that any price of goods can be sold. There are 10 yuan watches on the street, and hundreds of luxury goods. Wan's watches are all consumed by some people, and private jets are also bought by some people, so all the outstanding women are loved by some people, it just depends on whether you have found the right partner.
In Lao Wang's view, strong women are often more easily favored by love than ordinary women, just like Andy in Ode to Joy, who has been dominating the screen some time ago. Cared for by Cupid.
If you think this is just a fantasy of film and television screenwriters, then what Lao Wang wants to tell you is that in such a case in real life, the handsome Brad Pitt did not hesitate to abandon the lovely Aniston for the strong Julie; And George Clooney, who once claimed to be unmarried, also married Alamuddin, a powerful human rights lawyer.
Taking care of fish and bear's paw is the key
In the workplace, whether it is a man or a woman, it is worth working harder and making yourself stronger, better, and irreplaceable. Only when you are excellent can you be worthy of someone as good as you.
But whether you are a man or a woman, you must balance the time between family and work. Whether you are a strong man or a strong woman, if you make a lot of money and put on a high-ranking face at home, you will be beaten by life. face,
At work, you are the general manager, director, and chief XX division, but you are also a wife, mother, daughter, and daughter-in-law. Balance the time, play the role well, and take care of both the fish and the bear's paw.
Finally, Lao Wang wants to say that compared with ordinary girls, strong women are more likely to live happily because of their rich material life, which gives strong women more choices. They are no longer obsessed with RV deposits and can fall in love willfully. You can also choose to be single at will.