Being friends with your boss is a good idea or a risk
"If I could be friends with the boss, I don't know how much I would get scolded less." A friend complained to Pharaoh secretly. He said that every time he secretly saw the boss and his friends chatting and laughing in private, he couldn't help but fantasize about it. .
In life, the boss is gentle and personable, and treats friends gently and closely.
In the workplace, whether you can be friends with your boss is like whether you can fall in love with your boss. Buckle luxury.
Therefore, sometimes "friendship" in the workplace can only be a kind of expectation for the weak to rely on and balance, and it is also a win-win rule for the strong in mutual benefit.
So, is it even a wise choice to befriend someone who has the power to fire you, the power to deny you a raise, and the comfort or the worst of your usual job?
First, let's look at the benefits of being friends with your boss
Befriending your boss certainly has obvious benefits. As much as we would like to think of ourselves as working in a truly egalitarian system, if your boss treats you as a friend, he is more likely to give you the information with confidence, grant you time off, or allow you to be flexible with your work schedule. More importantly, he may also choose to let you take over important projects and tasks.
In conclusion, it's human nature to look after the people you like more, and if you have close ties to someone at the top of your organization, they might be able to promote you, spread your reputation, or provide you with useful information.
Look at the disadvantages of being friends with your boss
Once employees make friends with their supervisors/bosses, they may not recognize their roles. How to deal with your boss? How to deal with your colleagues? Chances are you'll jump the rank and make your immediate supervisor "hold a grudge" against you; chances are you'll be misbehaved, not be able to tell when you're on and off, and do things that make your boss/boss unstoppable; very likely Maybe you will "the emperor is not in a hurry for the eunuch", and the result is "concerned and disordered"; it is very likely that you will become more and more selfish, act beyond your authority, or even abuse your power, disrupt the hierarchical order or work flow in the enterprise, and become an enterprise " The root cause of civil unrest is likely to be "sacrificed" in the end.
When you make friends with your boss/boss, others think you are the boss/boss’s person, and even think you are the boss/boss’s “dogleg”, “spy” or “vested interest”, etc. In short, you It is his opposite and will not be trusted by other employees in the company. They will be suspicious of your ability, level, character, etc. As a result, they will not communicate with you sincerely and keep a distance from you, and eventually you will become a "blind" or "deaf", you will not be able to obtain all kinds of information you need, and you will not be able to correctly evaluate whether the information is effective, thus making your decision-making mistakes, Bring losses to the enterprise, and even become the laughing stock of others;
When you become a friend of your boss/boss, you cannot balance the various interests in the company. A company is a complex of interests, and there are various interest relationships in it. Once you are involved in a conflict of interest, you are likely to be injured, or even become a "pawn" who "lose a pawn to protect the car".
What's worse is that you think you are your boss/boss's friend, but your boss/boss doesn't treat you as his friend. When you claim to be your boss/boss friend, your mentality, concept, style, etc. may undergo some changes that you are not aware of, resulting in some embarrassing boss/boss, intolerable for boss, unacceptable for subordinates, Colleagues can not forgive things to come. At this point, your days at this company are almost over.
what does the king think
As soon as you see the length of the advantages and disadvantages, do you feel that the article does not need to be read further, the advantages are just a few lines, and the disadvantages are a long list, Lao Wang feels that things can't be generalized, everyone's situation and situation are different, no What is the only answer that can warn everyone.
Here, Pharaoh can only help you analyze when it is a good idea to make friends with the boss, and when is this approach too risky?
1. Did you become friends naturally or did you do it on purpose because it was good for you?
If you have a natural affinity, genuinely like each other, and want to network, then I think it's worth developing, and the same goes for other colleagues. But don't go out of your way to do things you wouldn't do to other colleagues. That would give a bit of a hack, I don't think that's what you want, a relationship based on scheming won't be strong, and the risk of ending in tragedy is higher, especially if your boss senses you're approaching He was looking for something else in his career development.
2. Can you draw a clear line between bosses and friendships at work?
If the relationship is between friends or boss and subordinates, in order not to blur the line, have a straightforward conversation. You can simply say, "I'm here as your friend." Or "As your employee, I want to tell you." This may seem contrived, but it can really help your work or your friendship.
3. When you become a celebrity in front of your boss, will your peers' attitude towards you change?
Your co-workers may be wary of whether you're getting special treatment from your boss, so make sure you don't feel hostile to them. Pay close attention to whether the boss is assigning you all the good, easy tasks? Listen to the reactions of others in the company and see if your personal relationship with your boss is causing trouble for others. If your personal relationships do invite hostility, talk to your boss. The second is that you have to do your job better and set an example to prevent others from thinking that the boss is favoring his friends. "
The sense of proportion in being friends with the boss
However, not being friends with your boss doesn't mean you have to be enemies with your boss. In fact, master the art of getting along with the boss and treat each other friendly. Maybe you can't get real friendship from the boss, but the boss will give you a sense of direction and a platform to display your talent and ambition. A healthy, cutting-edge, pragmatic idea to inspire you to fight for his career, and in the process, you will also get what you deserve. That is: sincerely treat the boss as a friend, but there must be a sense of boundaries and proportions between the boss and the employee.
Finally, Pharaoh wants to say: No matter whether we can make friends with our boss/boss, we must be an employee worthy of the boss/boss's trust!