Among colleagues, out of 10 people, 8 people are nodding acquaintances, and 2 people are firm 'ally'
Most people will think that "colleagues, don't get too close, just make general friends"
Case 1: Xiao Wang basically does not have any communication with other colleagues except for work, and does not participate in company team building or private gatherings between colleagues after work.
Over time, colleagues felt that Xiao Wang was arrogant and difficult to communicate, and gradually alienated him. In the company assessment at the end of the year, Xiao Wang's score was the lowest, and when the company decided to lay off employees, Xiao Wang also bore the brunt of the first. indivual.
Among colleagues, out of 10 people, 8 people are nodding acquaintances, and 2 people are firm "ally"
Xiao Wang rarely participates in activities and slowly becomes an outsider
Analysis: For people in the workplace, the people who spend the longest time with us are colleagues. Many of our jobs require teamwork to complete. Therefore, if you don’t fit in with your colleagues, it is easy to become an outsider, which is not only detrimental to the development of work, but also It will also block our news. Therefore, in the workplace, we must have a social circle that suits us to share experiences and receive news. You must always remember to be alone in the workplace.
Case 2: Xiaomei and Xiaomei were interns who joined the company at the same time. They soon became good best friends. Xiaomei is very simple and likes to talk to Xiaomei about everything, whether it is at work or in life. In front of Xiaomei, Xiaomei has no secrets at all.
Recently, Xiaomei found out that her supervisor would always criticize her in front of all her colleagues because of trivial matters, which made her very sad. She cried several times in secret and complained to Xiaomei.
Later, Xiaomei accidentally discovered that the reason why the boss was angry with her was because Mr. Mei secretly told the boss what she complained about him. Xiaomei didn't question Xiaomei why she did this, but gradually began to distance herself from her.
Among colleagues, out of 10 people, 8 people are nodding acquaintances, and 2 people are firm "ally"
Xiaomei "reports" with the leader behind Xiaomei's back
Analysis: Where there are people, there are rivers and lakes, and the relationship between colleagues will change with changes in career development, job promotion, and salary increases and decreases. The power and resources of the company are limited relative to the number of people in the company. Facing the temptation of power and resources, it is difficult for people to keep calm. Therefore, in the workplace, we are in a competitive relationship with everyone. Don't let yourself get too close to your colleagues, or even trust each other without reservation. Distance creates beauty, which is very applicable in the workplace.
These two cases fully demonstrate that a certain distance should be maintained with colleagues, neither too far nor too close, but whether it is necessary to have a general friendship is debatable.
If we want to develop in the workplace, we must have resources, contacts, and relationships, and our own accumulation must be limited, so we need to obtain them from other places, and at the same time, it is precisely one direction for us to obtain these.
When dealing with colleagues, we should not think about making friends, nor can we become friends, but choose strong "allys"
In fact, getting along with people is inherently a very profound knowledge, and there is no fixed pattern to speak of.
Among colleagues, out of 10 people, 8 people are nodding acquaintances, and 2 people are firm "ally"
It's hard to get along with people because you don't know what other people are thinking
In the workplace, we are all colleagues with each other. This is not our choice, but it happens that everyone has chosen the same company, so we are fortunate to be colleagues.
Most of the colleagues are mixed with interests, and it is destined that it is difficult for us to become friends.
In our daily work, our most basic relationship is a mutually beneficial relationship. Only by cooperating and helping each other can we achieve mutual success and achieve a win-win situation.
Therefore, we need that kind of "ally" colleagues more than friends in the development of the workplace.
- Your colleagues are in the city, but you are outside the city, and you will gradually be marginalized
Among colleagues, out of 10 people, 8 people are nodding acquaintances, and 2 people are firm "ally"
Marginalized people miss out on a lot of opportunities
The worst thing in the company is not the people who are always criticized, but the people who are marginalized. This kind of person is like a little transparent, and they are always aware of the valuable information in the company. They go out to learn and train. , The good errands of communication have nothing to do with them, let alone what promotion and salary increase are.
Everyone's attention is not on them, so no one can see them no matter how hard they work.
Just like Xiao Wang in my colleague's example 1, in the end, I can only do things that top mine, and the only value is to give priority to the places to be laid off.
- Powerful "ally" can help you resist unnecessary trouble
Among colleagues, out of 10 people, 8 people are nodding acquaintances, and 2 people are firm "ally"
Allies form their own groups to avoid fighting alone
The workplace is like a battlefield. Some colleagues will do things that may hurt you because of their interests. If you are a soft persimmon, you will definitely be crushed and smashed.
However, if you have powerful "allys". They may not dare to take the initiative to find you to stir up trouble, because this may not hurt you, but will damage their interests.
Powerful "allies" can allow you to devote more energy to your work and avoid the plot of villains.
- Allies can share resources and complement each other
Among colleagues, out of 10 people, 8 people are nodding acquaintances, and 2 people are firm "ally"
Resource sharing can be achieved between alliances
As the saying goes, "Three cobblers beat Zhuge Liang", most of the company's work is done by teams.
If your work is hindered, you can seek the help of "allies". Everyone has different abilities, social circles and relationships. It is difficult for you to do things yourself, and you can easily succeed by using the relationships of "allies" reasonably. .
So, good "allies" can make your work more effective with less effort.
It is very important to choose "ally", pay attention to "matching"
When choosing an "ally", you must grasp a certain degree, neither too strong nor too weak, you must find a moderate one, preferably a little stronger than yourself, this is also considered to be looking for a backer.
When choosing an ally, don't think about how others can help you, but first think about how you can help the other party. Only by recognizing yourself can you find the most suitable "ally"
- The ability of "ally" can complement you best
Among colleagues, out of 10 people, 8 people are nodding acquaintances, and 2 people are firm "ally"
The alliances must complement each other's capabilities so as not to waste resources
Complementary "ally" is the best existence. For example, when the leader asks you to make a plan, you need to match it with beautiful pictures and tables. These are not your strengths. It doesn't matter. You can ask for help off-site.
At this time, the "ally" comes in handy. The tall PPT, beautiful pictures, and big data tables can be done in minutes, and it can't be added with a soothing little music.
- The character of the "ally" must be decent
To be honest, character is the first element to consider "allies". It is difficult for a person with poor character to become a good "ally".
Only an "ally" with a good character can develop into an alliance with you to help each other, while an "ally" with a bad character can only slowly lead you into the abyss of sectarianism.
Among colleagues, out of 10 people, 8 people are nodding acquaintances, and 2 people are firm "ally"
Only "allies" with good character can make your efforts pay off
"Allies" with good character will immediately lend a helping hand when you need help; when you are slandered by others, they will stand up for you as soon as possible; when you encounter difficulties, they will help you as soon as possible Make plans.
On the contrary, most of the time, an "ally" with a bad character is not thinking about how to make himself better, but how to make others inferior to him. His motive for forming an alliance with you may be to hurt others for the better.
Therefore, when choosing an "ally", you must keep your eyes open, and cut off contact as soon as you find the motive is impure.
- Keep a safe distance between allies
The so-called "ally" here is just a circle formed for the better development of our work. We must be clear about the purpose of finding "ally", which is to reduce the resistance in our work.
Among colleagues, out of 10 people, 8 people are nodding acquaintances, and 2 people are firm "ally"
Keep a safe distance from "allies" to avoid harm to each other
It's best for us to talk to our "allies" only about problems at work, and not about other non-work-related topics, especially not about leaders or other colleagues.
Because your "ally" is also your colleague, I think everyone has heard the saying that there is an ear in the wall, because you don't know whether the person you are talking about has anything to do with your "ally", so try not to tell lies.
Another point is that you can't tell your "ally" your heartfelt words, especially your own privacy or secrets. Don't say it out loud.
In the workplace, we can make a nod to most of our colleagues, but we must have a few close "allies". To be honest, there is only a thin line between these "allies" and friends, and that is the line of interest. When you switch from this company to another company, you will lose the entanglement of interests with the original "ally". As long as the contact continues, it is possible develop into true friends.