You have a good relationship with them, but why can't you get into their circle?
Xiao Wang and a few good friends are in a circle, and they have a very good relationship with each other. They have established a WeChat group and often go out to dinner and play together. Xiaohui and Xiao Wang have a good relationship, and he also wants to join this circle, so he often takes the initiative to participate in their activities. But Xiaohui found that the circle never really accepted him, and there was always a layer of relationship. The topic we are going to talk about today is: You have a good relationship with them, but why can't you get into their circle? Let's analyze it below.
- The formation of a circle of friends requires time and common experience
The formation of a friend circle is not an easy process, it requires fate and more time. Several like-minded people are destined to get together, and then get along for a long time, establishing a relatively close relationship with each other. They have topics different from others together, and even outsiders can't understand some of them. Over time, several people have formed a stable and reliable relationship, which is the current circle of friends. Your relationship with them is very good, but it is only superficial, and lacks a lot of connotation compared to their internal relationship.
- Once a circle of friends is formed, it is difficult for others to join
It is precisely because it is so difficult to form a circle of friends, so once a circle of friends is formed, friends will cherish this circle very much, and it will be difficult for later people to join. The friend circle itself has formed a stable relationship. If new members join, it will break the original balance and bring instability to the circle. Therefore, everyone in this circle is friends with Xiaohui, but it is only a personal relationship, and has nothing to do with the circle of friends. If Xiaohui really wants to join, he has to get the consent of all the members in the circle.
- Manage your own circle of friends, don’t always want to join other people’s circle of friends
Some people want to say that it is so difficult to join other people's circle of friends, what should I do? In fact, you don't have to stare at other people's circle of friends, you can also have your own circle of friends. Some people usually don't pay attention to managing interpersonal relationships, and they have not been able to form a circle of friends with people with good relationships. Then you can make some attempts to combine those who are willing to communicate further and establish a WeChat group. Everyone usually strengthens interaction and helps each other, and you can also slowly build your own circle of friends.