You go to so many social events, why don't you have a few friends?
Xiaohui is very keen to participate in various social activities. Whether it is a class reunion or a dinner with colleagues, whether it is a group tour or sports activities, he is indispensable. Xiaohui hopes to make more friends through these activities and help her career develop. After participating in so many social activities, Xiaohui did know a lot of people, but most of them were just nodding acquaintances and did not make a few friends. Today's topic we're going to talk about is: Why do you go to so many social events and not make a few friends? Let's analyze it below.
- There are too many activities to participate in, and the social objects are not focused enough
There is a limit to the time and energy a person can devote to socializing, and if they participate in a large number of activities, the time and energy will be scattered. He wants to interact with so many people at the same time, and most of them may be superficial. The result of such exchanges is a large number, but not enough depth. Social objects should be relatively focused, first plan which friends you focus on, and don’t grab your eyebrows and beards. Only by fully understanding and in-depth exchanges will we become friends.
- Friends are not made through social activities, but through time precipitation
Xiao Wang participated in so many activities, but did not make any friends because he misunderstood the way of making friends. Participating in social activities is in itself to get to know more people and expand his network, which Xiao Wang has already done. Participating in social activities can only get to know some people more, but it takes time to become friends. After two people get to know each other, they have to go through more exchanges to understand each other, and it takes time to become friends.
- If your social value is not enough, participating in more activities will not make much difference
You want to become friends with others through social activities, but you must first ask yourself a question: What are your strengths that are worth socializing with others? Participating in social activities is in a sense an exchange of resources, and if you have enough resources, you can attract more people to cooperate with you. If you have little social value, others may not be as motivated to engage with you. Everyone wants to be friends with good people. If you are not good enough, participating in more activities will not make much difference.