When you treat guests, why don't some people join in?
Xiaohui has a small circle of friends, and the dozen or so friends in the circle usually take turns to cook dinner together. When other people treat guests, Xiaohui will always put down what he is doing to participate. But Xiaohui found that every time he came to treat himself, Xiaodong always excused himself not to come, and sometimes he even had to find a reason to go back when he was around. This made Xiaohui very incomprehensible. The topic we are going to talk about today is: when you treat guests, why do some people just not join? Let's analyze it below.
- The other party is not so familiar with you, or the relationship is not so good
Some people think that friends in a circle must have a good relationship, but this is not the case. Sometimes a circle of friends is built around a person with whom everyone knows or has a good relationship, while others are not so close. It is undeniable that there are people on the edge in every circle, and Xiaohui may be on the edge of this circle. Although everyone is lively and lively when they are together, when it comes to the relationship between Xiaohui and a certain person, it really exists in the bureau. Xiaodong may be someone who is far away from Xiaohui in this circle, so he doesn't want to participate.
- The other party treats you as a potential opponent
Xiaohui should also think about whether Xiaodong regards himself as a potential opponent. Two people work in the same company and are related in business. Is it because Xiaodong sees Xiaohui as a competitor, so he doesn't want to support the dinner held by Xiaohui? Sometimes, this competition is not about work, it may be other aspects, such as competition in interpersonal relationships, all want to get a higher status in the circle. In a competitive situation, the other party may compress your social space.
- Your status may be relatively low, and the other party does not want to waste time
You may have the feeling that if your status is low and your social value is low, it's not so easy for you to entertain. Many people will refuse to participate for one reason or another. After all, everyone does not value a meal very much now, but cares more about the time spent on the meal. Only when there is someone he really wants to meet at the dinner party, or if he gets some kind of spiritual satisfaction, will he be willing to come. Xiaohui should think about whether it should be because his social value is not enough, and the other party is not willing to waste time.