There are always some people, no matter how nice you are to them, it is of no use
There always seems to be a barrier between Xiaohui and his colleague Xiaodong. The time the two have worked together is not short, but Xiaohui feels that the relationship between the two always stays on the surface. When others are present, the two seem to have some conversations. Usually the two don't have much interaction. Xiaohui also wanted to improve the relationship between the two, and tried to actively help Xiaodong at work. Even so, the relationship between the two has not changed in the slightest. The topic we are going to talk about today is: there are always some people, no matter how nice you are to them, it is of no use. Let's analyze it below.
- Such unappreciative people often have a slight hostility towards you
If you've been in a similar situation, think hard about it, there may be a slight hostility behind this lack of appreciation. This kind of hostility is not directly expressed in tit for tat, but hidden in the heart. Maybe you have inadvertently done something that made the other person unhappy in the past, or said something that made him unhappy, and he secretly remembered it in his heart and chose to treat you with such an attitude. Or maybe he senses that you are his potential opponent and may be disadvantageous to him in some ways, so he takes this attitude towards you.
- Such unappreciative people may think that you and him are not the same kind of people
There is also a situation where he thinks that you are not the same type of person as him at all and have different interests, so he does not want to communicate further. For example, you dress stylishly and speak avant-garde, but someone is not used to such a way of dressing and speaking. The things you like to do are also very different from him, and he thinks it is too out of tune with you, and he doesn't want to integrate with you at all. If only one person treats you like this, it may just be different preferences; if there are many people with similar attitudes, you should probably consider how to adapt to the environment.
- Since it is impossible to develop a relationship, it is better to get along politely.
Some people want to maintain a good relationship with everyone, so they spend a lot of energy on these people, hoping to improve the relationship, but nothing works. In this case, don't waste too much emotion on him, it's better to spend more emotion on those who are kind to you. Although you and this type of person are not so friendly, they are not always hostile. They are generally polite and polite. In fact, this is also very good, and you will not feel tired when you get along.