The harder you try to clarify the gossip of others, the more troublesome it can be

Let me tell you a little story first.

Xiaodong's wife works in a large company, and her performance is very good. She has been reused by the boss and often negotiates various business with the boss. In contrast, Xiaodong is a small company, and the benefits are not very good. Xiaodong's income is naturally a lot worse than that of his wife. As a big man, this is enough to make Xiaodong feel very ashamed, and it makes Xiaodong more unable to bear the gossip of colleagues around him. Some colleagues said behind the scenes that the reason why Xiaodong's wife developed well was because she had an ambiguous relationship with her boss. Although he didn't say it in front of Xiaodong, Xiaodong was still very clear.

Originally, Xiaodong didn't take it seriously. Xiaodong's wife is very beautiful, but Xiaodong knows what his wife is like. But when more and more people started talking about these gossips, Xiaodong couldn't sit still. Especially this year, Xiaodong's wife just gave birth to a child. Some colleagues privately said that the child does not look like Xiaodong, like the boss of his wife's company. At first, others tried to talk behind their backs, but later some people started joking with Xiaodong about this. Where did Xiaodong get it.

In order to quell these rumors, Xiaodong thought of a way to do a paternity test with the child. He thought that as soon as the results came out, everything would be clarified. He shared his thoughts with his wife, who was very angry and said he doubted himself. Xiaodong had no choice but to tell his wife his troubles, saying that he was doing this for the sake of the children. The wife agreed to do a paternity test for the sake of her husband and children. The identification results came out, and the child was of course Xiaodong's own. Xiaodong took the identification result and felt that his waist finally straightened up.

Xiaodong deliberately created an opportunity for some colleagues to see the results of his paternity test, and wanted to use facts to defeat the rumors about him. He thought that no one would gossip again in the future, but what he didn't expect was that a new version of gossip came out again. Some people said that Xiaodong's wife and boss must have something to do. If there is nothing, why would Xiaodong do a paternity test? Xiaodong never imagined that the appraisal result he made would be turned into evidence of gossip by others.

The above is just a story, purely fictional, any similarity is purely coincidental. Only used as a case study in this article. Although it is only a story, all kinds of gossip still happen frequently in reality. If you're always trying to clear up these gossips, you'll find that in the end it doesn't do much except tire yourself out. You think about it, why is there such gossip? In the final analysis, some people who are hostile to you are deliberately talking behind your back. At this time, no matter how you clarify, they can find new gossip to talk about you, even at the expense of making up gossip.

So how can we fight back against this gossip? First of all, you have to correct yourself and pay attention to some details in life. Try to avoid doing things that might lead to misunderstandings. Second, try to create a good interpersonal circle and unite as many people as possible. Again, you should work hard and make yourself better so that you have more say. Your words will have more weight, and those gossip will naturally fall apart.

The harder you try to clarify the gossip of others, the more troublesome it may become. But if there is a chance to clarify, try to clarify. Others misunderstand you about some things, but you haven't explained them clearly, and you can't take the initiative to explain them. Opportunity then becomes particularly important. If you happen to get a chance to talk about the process in front of everyone, you must explain it carefully.