Social rules: There is a kind of friendship called 'drinking together'
For a while, the term "ineffective socialization" was in vogue. Some people think that many of the usual social interactions are ineffective, and it is only effective if the values of both parties are equal. Actually, this is not the case in reality. Sometimes, you go to a place to run errands, and you happen to meet the person who had been drinking with him yesterday, and he works here. With his enthusiastic help, your things are done smoothly and save a lot of time. Because of this help from the other party, you also have some emotional foundation. This kind of friendship is called "drinking together". Today we are going to talk about this kind of friendship.
- People who have been drinking together are willing to help you with a little favor
Some people often say that people who drink together are "friends of wine and meat", thinking that these friends cannot be made, but "confidants". In fact, it may be difficult for you to meet a "confidant" in your life, and most of you can meet such ordinary friends. If someone drinks with you once by chance, even if you know each other. If you want people in this kind of friendship to help you a lot, it is generally unrealistic, after all, the other party also has to consider the cost. And if it's helping you with something that's not too strenuous, they say they'll be more than happy. But these little things can sometimes really help you a lot. Maybe you'd have to run two or three times to do it, but now one is fine.
- People who have been drinking together may become friends, and the relationship is much closer than that of strangers
If two people have only had one drink together, they are definitely not friends. Even if they add WeChat to each other, they are at best acquaintances. But the relationship is far better than a stranger. Because you have initial contact and have friends who both know endorse the relationship, you still have initial trust. If you are in an unfamiliar place together, you will quickly become friends. Drinking together is the initial stage of the relationship between the two, and after development, they may become friends. Don't stay at home all the time, go out for a drink, or meet a few more friends. Don't underestimate this weak link relationship, sometimes it will bring great help to your career development.
- Many of the past events that you and your friends can look back on are stories of drinking.
When you think about the past that you and your friends shared, what can you think of? In addition to the scene of reading together when they were in school and the way they struggled together when they first worked, the rest may be the story of drinking between the two. Every time you drink, it will be recorded in the process of your relationship and become your common experience. Having more shared experiences builds a deeper level of trust. This is also the reason why friends in a circle will get together after a while. Your relationship was "a lot of drinking together," both as a teenager and as a youth.