Social Rules: People who make promises when they meet for the first time, you better be careful
Xiaohui participated in an event and met a person with slightly more seniority. The first time we met, I gave Xiaohui all kinds of compliments. Knowing that Xiaohui loves literature, he also said that he is a friend of the chairman of the Writers Association, so he can be recommended to join the Writers Association. I heard that Xiaohui works in a grass-roots unit, and also told him that he could help him be transferred to a higher-level unit. Xiaohui was very happy. When he came back, he told his friends about it. Some of them told him directly: The two parties have promised all kinds of people when they first met, so you better be careful. Let's analyze the reasons below.
- There is no closeness for no reason, and no help for no reason.
You have no special relationship, and you have no special interest in him. The first time you met, the other party complimented you too much and promised to help you. To be sane, this is illogical. Between people, there is no hatred for no reason, no love for no reason with me, and no help for no reason. And what you need to do to help is very difficult. Of course you have to think about the reasons for this.
- People who make promises at will, may not care about integrity at all
Whether it is to introduce Xiaohui to the Writers Association or to help Xiaohui transfer work, these are things that require certain social relations to be done. Maybe the other person is a person who has a little relationship, but there is no special reason, and he will not use his relationship to help you. Even if you have a relationship, using a relationship requires resources in exchange. People who make promises to you at will, may not take it to heart, maybe just to show their energy. He can make such a promise, which shows that he may not care about integrity at all in peacetime.
- The other party's overly enthusiastic attitude may not be well-intentioned
The first time I met you, I was so enthusiastic about you, and promised to win you over with great profits. You have to think that this kind of win may not be good intentions. So to say that the other party is making a promise, it is better to say that the other party is seducing you. If you believe him, then you may take the initiative to approach him in the future. If you want to achieve what he said, there may be some corresponding price to pay. You need to learn more about this person through other channels, and be careful with him.
In interpersonal communication, there is no closeness for no reason. For some people's overly enthusiastic attitude, you have to carefully screen. The first time you meet people who promise all kinds of promises, you must be careful when dealing with them. Dear friends, what do you think of this article's views, let's exchange it together.