Social rules: One of the biggest taboos in dealing with people is to show a sense of superiority

Xiaodong and Xiaohui and other friends have dinner together. A few of my friends work outside, set up stalls, and open convenience stores. Relatively speaking, Xiaodong is still the best. In the past two years, relying on the cosmetics business, I have accumulated some accumulation, which is obviously better than the other few people. During the small talk, Xiaodong couldn't stop talking. For a while, we will talk about traveling in Xinmatai, and then we will talk about the house bought in the provincial capital. Xiaohui and the others could only listen, because they couldn't speak at all. And with their income, let alone Xinmatai, traveling around is a luxury.

During a meal, Xiaodong not only finished talking about his struggle, but also mentioned many things about himself consciously or unintentionally. For example, I bought a large diamond ring for my wife on the wedding anniversary, and I plan to change my wife's car after a while. Hearing that Xiaohui and the others were really envious, jealous, and hateful, not to mention that there were two wives eating together. Xiaodong finished speaking, always showing a "it's nothing" tone. Maybe later, I felt a little too ostentatious, and I began to complain again, saying that starting a business was not easy, that my family was spending too much, that I was under a lot of pressure, and so on.

Xiaohui and other people felt very uncomfortable. Originally a few friends got together to chat, but I didn't expect it to be Xiaodong's performance alone. Xiaodong, you are indeed doing well, but can you consider the feelings of others? Xiaohui and other friends thought that Xiaodong was drinking this time, so he talked a lot, but they didn't expect that Xiaodong would invite everyone to dinner in a few days. I chose a very high-end restaurant and drank very expensive wine. Then Xiaodong went on a wild show again, and everyone gave up this time. In the future, I will try my best not to call Xiaodong for dinner.

In interpersonal communication, if you have achieved a certain advantage, you must not show your superiority in front of your friends. You may feel fine, but others will feel very uncomfortable with you. Let's analyze it:

First of all, people who have achieved absolute advantages will not show off their superiority, and others will not feel uncomfortable. If a person has really achieved very great things, he will not show his superiority in front of these poor friends, because there is no need to do so. His advantages are obvious enough, and others will admire him very much, and generally do not feel jealous. Only a person with a small advantage like Xiaodong would be willing to show it off.

Second, if you gain some small advantage, you should keep a low profile. You used to be poor friends who played together, but now you have a little more money than everyone else, and some people have some psychological imbalances. You still have to show off deliberately, and you really feel superior in front of everyone, that must be very annoying. At this time, what you should do is to keep a proper low profile. Let everyone feel that you are the same as before, so that you can be better accepted by everyone and get a higher evaluation.