Social rules: Is it appropriate to send someone something after drinking, and then ask for it back?
Xiaodong invited a group of friends to drink. Because he hadn't been together for a long time, Xiaodong specially chose a very good restaurant and secretly took out two cases of wine from his father. Everyone had a great time drinking together and finished a case of wine. When the dinner was over, everyone else went home, leaving Xiaodong and Xiaohui. After a while, Xiaohui's wife came to pick him up, and Xiaodong got into Xiaohui's wife's car and carried the remaining box of wine into the car. Xiaodong said to give this box of wine to Xiaohui.
The next day, Xiaodong's father told him that a case of wine was nearly 2,000 yuan. Xiaodong regretted giving it away, so he wanted to call and tell Xiaohui about the situation. He felt that such an expensive wine was not something that was given casually. But I am afraid that if I ask for it, it will make people laugh. Xiaodong's father was also reluctant to drink it, so he put it away. He didn't expect to be given away by himself. Xiaodong is in a dilemma. So, should Xiaodong go to Xiaohui to get back?
- If Xiaohui knows the price of this case of wine, he should take the initiative to send it back
Xiaohui and Xiaodong are both working class and their incomes are not high. Two thousand yuan a case of wine is definitely a luxury for them. Sending some gifts between friends can promote the relationship, but the gifts are basically around 100 yuan. If Xiaohui knew the price of this case of wine, he should understand that under normal circumstances, Xiaodong should not give himself such an expensive thing. If he really accepts it, it seems inappropriate. In order to avoid Xiaodong's embarrassment, Xiaohui should take the initiative to return the wine to Xiaodong.
Second, Xiaodong goes directly to ask, obviously not a good choice
Xiaodong naturally felt very distressed about giving out such an expensive wine, not to mention that he drank a case that night. He thought about explaining it to Xiaohui. At this time, he didn't know the price of his father's wine, and he drank too much at the time, so he exchanged two bottles of wine. Such a scene will naturally be very embarrassing, and friends may laugh at Xiaodong in the future. Doing so may damage his image.
- If Xiaodong really wants it, he can find an opportunity to express it indirectly
If Xiaohui didn't take the initiative to withdraw the wine, and Xiaodong really couldn't bear the box of wine, he could express it in an indirect way. For example, after meeting Xiaohui, he mentioned the case of wine intentionally or unintentionally, and euphemistically stated his father's criticism of his secretly taking wine. Xiaodong can also tell other friends the origin and price of this case of wine, which will soon be passed on to Xiaohui, and Xiaohui may take the initiative to withdraw the wine.
When friends gather together, they should know what level of consumption they belong to, and don’t consume excessively, let alone give away things after drinking. It is irrational to drink alcohol and may do things that you regret. Rather than discussing whether it's appropriate to go after drinking something, it's better to avoid this from happening in the first place. Dear friends, what do you think should be done about Xiaodong's distress? Leave a message below to communicate.