Social Rules: In other people's world, you really don't matter that much
Yesterday was Xiaohui's birthday. Xiao Wang specially chose a birthday present for Xiao Hui, and wanted to give it to him at the birthday party in the evening. Among the colleagues in the company, Xiao Wang and Xiao Hui have the best relationship and are most enthusiastic about Xiao Hui's birthday. In the afternoon, Xiaohui hadn't notified Xiaowang to attend the banquet, and Xiaowang ran to ask Xiaohui. Xiaohui said that there would be no banquet, and that he was still young but not a birthday. But today Xiaohui heard that Xiao Wang invited many friends to dinner last night, but he did not invite himself. This made Xiao Wang very sad. The topic we are going to talk about today is: in other people's world, you really are not that important. Let's analyze it below.
- Your relationship with him is good, maybe only in a small area
Sometimes you feel like you have a particularly good relationship with someone, like Xiao Wang and Xiao Hui. But what you see is only part of his network. As his colleague or his classmate, you may have the best relationship with him in the circle of colleagues and classmates, but he also has friends in other circles. Compared to friends in other circles, you may be nothing. It is also possible that you have a good relationship with someone just because you have some kind of business cooperation during this time. When the business cooperation is over, your relationship will fade.
- You think you are a friend of others, but you may not be that important in their hearts
Some people like to say that they and so-and-so are friends, and the relationship between the two is not generally good. But this may just be your idea. You treat the other party as a friend, but the other party does not necessarily regard you as a friend. Sometimes you are just one of his most common friends. Don't listen to what other people say, it's all polite. You may often hear someone at a dinner talk about how good your relationship is, only to find out later that he's not that enthusiastic about you. The relationship between two people is a tacit balance. Without the hard work and time accumulation, no matter how much you say, you can't become a good friend.
- In interpersonal communication, it is very important to evaluate yourself correctly
In interpersonal communication, it is necessary to correctly assess your position. In a certain circle, you may be only insignificant; in other people's social circle, you may be only a very small one. Just reality, whether you can accept it psychologically or not. Your weight in the hearts of others is more often determined by your social value. Maybe you've known someone for a long time and feel a good relationship, but even someone with high social value who he just met may be more important than you. You have to evaluate yourself correctly and constantly improve your social value in order to win the respect of more people.