Social rules: In interpersonal communication, social safety is the most important need
Xiao Wang's business is very big, but he has few friends, especially he doesn't have the kind of iron friends. Xiaohui's business is very small, but Xiaohui has three very good friends. The four of them are all doing business in the same city, and they will be there to help with anything, and they seem to be particularly united. So Xiao Wang wanted to join Xiaohui's small circle. Xiao Wang thought that his business was big and resourceful, and their small circle would definitely welcome him very much. However, they found that Xiaohui and a few people were only willing to do business with Xiao Wang, but they did not regard him as a good friend. The topic we are going to talk about today is: social security is the most important need in interpersonal communication. Let's analyze it below.
- Having a stable and reliable social circle is a person’s social security needs
Why does Xiao Wang have so many resources, but Xiao Hui still sticks to the original circle? This is because that small circle is a stable and reliable social circle and the basis for Xiaohui's social activities. He knew that Xiao Wang had a lot of resources, but he was not sure that Xiao Wang would treat him wholeheartedly like a few good friends. Several friends in the circle are not as big in business as Xiao Wang, but when Xiao Wang encounters difficulties, they are his most stable support. Having a stable and reliable social circle is a need for a person's social security. Such a circle is more important than money.
- You may be able to provide more resources, but not social security
Xiao Wang has more resources, but it cannot give Xiao Hui more social security. The main reason why a person socializes widely is to seek social security. With reliable friends, you will no longer be lonely emotionally and act more confidently. In ordinary life, you will find those who have close friends who are always full of energy and confidence. And those who go to dinner parties but don't have friends can't find a clear fulcrum anywhere.
- The establishment of a reliable social circle requires the accumulation of time, and it needs to be carefully maintained
Xiaohui and other friends will not easily break the original social pattern and let Xiao Wang join their small circle. This is because their social circle is formed over time, and it is very difficult to establish such a relationship with each other. The addition of Xiao Wang may break this relationship. They will maintain the relationship carefully, even if Wang has more resources. If you also want to have a stable and reliable social circle, you should choose friends who will stand the test of time and carefully maintain your relationship.