Social rules: If you want more friends, you must have more hobbies
Xiao Wang has few friends, so he envy Xiao Hui, who has extensive communication. So I asked Xiaohui how to have so many friends, and Xiaohui told Xiao Wang that he should have more hobbies. In addition to going to work, Xiao Wang usually goes home to watch TV. He doesn't smoke or drink, and he doesn't play games or ball. He basically has no hobbies. Naturally, there are not many friends. The topic we want to talk about today is: if you want to have more friends, you must have more hobbies. Let's analyze it below.
- Socializing requires hobbies as a carrier
Socialization is an abstract concept, not a concrete thing. Carrying out social activities requires a carrier. The simplest carrier is a dinner party. If you like drinking and chatting, you can meet a lot of people at one time; you can also like sports, and you can play ball together and build relationships with each other; you can also like literature, and you can make a lot of friends. Friends of the text; even if you like to play games, you can meet many common fans. With hobbies as a carrier, you can communicate better.
- You have to love and invest in order to resonate with others
Some people say that I don't like to play, but in order to be able to interact with them, I pretend to be interested in playing and actively participate. It's okay in the short term, but it's hard for you to stick to it in the long term. Doing what one likes is a kind of enjoyment; doing what one does not like is a kind of pain. If you don't like it, it will be difficult to devote yourself to it. It is often just a taste of it, and it cannot resonate with everyone, so it is naturally difficult to communicate in depth. But if you actually like it after pretending to like it for a while, then of course it's even better.
Third, consciously cultivate your hobbies from the things you like
Some people say that since many hobbies can promote social interaction, then try to cultivate your hobbies as much as possible. This is of course a good thing, but developing a hobby requires a foundation. Even if everyone has no hobbies, there will be things they like relatively. You should cultivate these things that you like to do as hobbies, and at least choose things that you don't dislike. This is how your hobby can last. It is best to cultivate a hobby to a certain level, so that people with the same hobby will be willing to communicate with you. If your level is particularly low, others are not interested in communicating with you.