Social rules: If someone frequently drinks with you alone at dinner, you must be careful
Xiaohui was invited to a dinner party, that is, a foil role. But in the dinner, there was a person who drank with him alone many times, and kept persuading him to drink, which surprised Xiaohui very much. Xiaohui had no choice but to drink a few more glasses, and finally vomited. After the dinner, both parties went home without leaving contact information. After sobering up the next day, Xiaohui thought and thought, maybe it was because the other party didn't like to hear something he said, so he drank with him many times. The topic we are going to talk about today is: If someone frequently drinks with you alone during the dinner, you must be careful. Let's analyze it below.
- The other party frequently drinks with you alone, which may be deliberately targeting you
Treats like Xiaohui's encounter are the intentional targets of the other party. This is not uncommon. Although everyone usually drinks to promote relationships, it is inevitable that there will be some language misunderstandings during drinking, especially when drinking too much. When some people are dissatisfied with others, they frequently raise their glasses to drink with each other, and they will also persuade them to drink for various reasons. In this case, if the other party is in a calm mood, you can have a few drinks and then communicate to resolve the conflict. If the other party is obviously emotional, you should leave the dinner as soon as possible.
- Someone frequently drinks with you alone, maybe there is something to ask you
More often, others drink with you alone to deepen their relationship with you. At this time, you need to think about whether the other party has something to ask you for help. If it is something that can be helped, persuade the other party not to drink too much; if it is really impossible to help, be more polite when drinking, and it is best not to drink less than the other party. If the other person is like you and wants to meet you as a friend, it's okay to have a few more drinks.
Third, first determine the other party's motives, and then find ways to resolve
When the other party frequently drinks with you alone, you must first judge the other party's motives. This can be asked directly, after all, drinking alone requires a reason. But the other party usually won't answer directly, which requires you to judge whether the other party is kind or malicious. The judgment is clear, and it is resolved according to the specific situation. If you can't stop the other person yourself, you can turn to others to persuade them. It's good for everyone to get together to communicate, but drinking too much can be bad.