Social rules: Don't be too easy-going in interpersonal communication, self-reliance will win more respect
Xiao Wang has been very distressed recently because he feels that he is not valued in his circle of friends. In several activities in the circle, Xiao Wang was missed. Once everyone went to see a friend, Xiao Wang was late for a business, but everyone else went first and didn't wait for him at all. Xiao Wang usually pays great attention to social etiquette. He always responds positively to other people's proposals and never contradicts others. No matter the events in the circle, big or small, he will be on time. But because Xiao Wang was too casual, he gradually found that others didn't care about his existence at all. The topic we are going to talk about today is: You can't be too easy-going in interpersonal communication, and self-reliance will win more respect. Let's analyze it below.
- When you socialize completely passively, your existence loses value
The reason why Xiao Wang is ignored by others is because he has lost himself in social interaction. He believes that letting go of his own ideas and flattering other people's opinions can make more people like him. But over time, others will gradually get used to not asking your opinion, because you never have your own opinion, and your existence will lose its value. Once such an impression is established in the minds of others, you will definitely be ignored more and more, and when you try to express your opinion, others will think you are unreasonable.
- Your self-reliance shows your existence and will get more attention
Xiao Wang's colleague Xiao Hui is completely different. He pursues more self-reliance in social life, and he will communicate with everyone if he has any ideas. At the beginning, Xiaohui was not as popular as Xiao Wang, and he gave everyone the impression that he had more things to do. But gradually everyone found that Xiaohui's opinion has a certain value, and they will ask Xiaohui's opinion when they encounter anything. While Xiao Wang was neglected, Xiao Hui received more attention. Because Xiaohui is more independent, it also attracts more friends.
- Interpersonal communication must have its own planning and attitude in order to have more friends
Interpersonal communication is never casual and random, but needs to be planned by oneself. When you go to a new environment, after you have a rough idea of the interpersonal relationships here, you should plan your social direction. What kind of attitude and image to use to communicate with others, who to focus on developing relationships with, and what kind of circles to join, these all require your self-reliance and attitude. Plan your social interactions and implement them with your own attitudes and actions, so that you will win more friends.