Social Rules: Before going to the dinner party, you must do the 'three questions at the dinner party'
Dinner is an efficient way to socialize. Many people actively participate in various dinner parties in order to expand their interpersonal relationships. But not all dinner parties can help you to expand your network, and some dinner parties are not suitable for you to attend. If you want to go to a dinner party, you must first do the "three questions about the dinner party", that is, who organized the dinner party, what is the theme of the dinner party, and who is participating in the dinner party. Only by understanding these three questions, you can go to the dinner party better. Let's analyze it in detail.
- Who organized this dinner party?
In many cases, it is the organizer of the dinner who notifies you to attend the dinner. But sometimes, especially when there are a lot of people in the dinner party, other people will also give notice. When receiving an invitation, it is very important to first ask who is organizing the dinner. Because the first question you have to consider is whether or not to participate, which largely depends on your familiarity with the organizer. If the relationship is very far-fetched, it may be rejected directly. Of course, this will also help you judge your role in the dinner party.
- What is the theme of this dinner party?
Each dinner has its own theme, which, to put it bluntly, is the purpose of this dinner. Some dinners have a clear theme, such as a friend's birthday, to congratulate a happy event, etc. There are also many dinner parties whose themes are not so clear, or the organizers do not express it clearly, and only vaguely say "get together." Know the theme of the dinner party, be able to clarify your role in the dinner party, know why the other party invites you, and be able to make some preparations in advance according to the needs of the dinner party. For dinner parties that don't have a clear theme, you need to judge the purpose of the meal by the people who attended.
- Who are there at the dinner party?
It is very important to know who is attending the dinner. The grade of a dinner party is not the food, but the people who participate. By the people who attended, you can judge the social effect of this dinner party. Those who organize the dinner party first make sure that an important person can come to participate, because if he can come, everyone else will come to participate in spite of difficulties. Knowing who is participating is also an important reason to determine if you are going or not. If there are a lot of people you can talk to, then you are willing to participate; if there are people who don't have a good relationship with you, it is best not to participate.