Social Rule: If you're not getting anywhere, don't say how strong your relationship is with your friends
Socializing is very important to everyone, and everyone wants to have more good friends, especially some friends who are very close. Some people fail to achieve anything in their careers, but they mingle in various social fields every day, boasting how strong their relationship with so-and-so is. Today's topic we're going to talk about is: If you don't achieve anything, don't say how strong your relationship with your friends is. Let's analyze it below.
- Friends are dynamic, not static
Books often say that "friendship lasts forever", but long-term friendship requires careful maintenance. If you have a very good relationship with someone and you want to keep that relationship going, then just thinking about it is not enough, you have to put in the energy to maintain it, keep in constant communication and contact. Friends are dynamic, not static. If you don't maintain friendships, the best friends will gradually drift away. You can think of your former friends, and there are still a few who still maintain a good relationship. If you don't achieve anything, you may not have the ability to maintain relationships and you will lose old friends.
- Friends are people who move forward together. If you stop moving forward, the distance will become bigger and bigger.
I often hear people say that when their friends are prosperous, their relationship with them is cold. They attribute the reason to the fact that people are too realistic. In fact, his friends will also feel aggrieved. Because when his social status improves, his social circle will naturally also improve, and gradually he will have less contact with the original circle. If your friends are improving and you keep stagnant, you will lose those friends sooner or later. Because the gap between you is getting bigger and bigger, the topics that can be exchanged are getting less and less. Even if you want to save it, it is impossible.
- If you do nothing, it is hard to have very good friends
Some people say that although their career is a failure, they have many friends and many good friends. This may have been his words of comfort. Because it's hard to have very good friends if you don't accomplish anything. Everyone wants to be friends with good people, and the better you are, the more friends you may have. People like to be around people who aren't great, sometimes just because of superiority and security, not because of friendship. You don't have so much social value, and you need help from others in everything you do, so what capital do you have to make others have a better relationship with you.