No matter how much you hit it off, don't finish the conversation when you meet for the first time
Xiaohui went to a dinner party, next to Xiaodong. The two hit it off at first sight, and the more they chatted, the more they fell in love. So I found another small restaurant, from school to work, from now to the future. Xiaohui felt that it was really late to see each other, and he must become friends with Xiaodong. When Xiaohui woke up the next day, he felt that yesterday's words were a bit too much. I want to get in touch with Xiaodong, but it doesn't feel right. The topic we are going to talk about today is: no matter how many hits, don't finish talking on the first meeting. Let's analyze it below.
- The more you talk, the more sincere you appear
Many people have a misunderstanding when they talk, and they always think that if they talk too much, they appear to be frank. Just like Xiaohui, he told Xiaodong a lot of things from the bottom of his heart when they first met. But the two did not become friends, but they looked embarrassed when they met again. In order to make friends quickly, many people want to cross the unfamiliarity one step at the first meeting and become a friend who can talk about anything. But you have to understand that making friends requires time and process, and the necessary links cannot be omitted.
- After the first meeting, I finished talking, how can I be friends in the future?
Many times, the motivation for others to interact with you is to discover that you have more strengths and potential social value. If you tell others your base number the first time you meet, do they need to know more about you? Xiaohui and Xiaodong chatted so much for the first time that Xiaodong did not think highly of Xiaohui. When you meet for the first time, you have to hold someone's hand and trust each other, so how should you get along in the future? After the first meeting, the conversation is over, how can we be friends in the future? Leave a trace of suspense to the other party, and everyone will take it slow.
- Don't talk too deeply when two people don't fully understand
Confidence and speaking freely are based on mutual understanding. You know what you are talking about and what you are doing. When two people meet for the first time, they don't know each other very well. At this time, it is best not to talk too much or too deeply. Sometimes you think it's too late to meet you, and you want to drag others to chat, and others' attitude towards you may just be polite. If you really want to be friends with someone, you can leave the contact information and get to know them later. There are still many opportunities to drink and chat.