How do you measure the depth of your relationship with others?
Everyone knows a lot of people, including close friends and close colleagues. Some people think that they have a lot of friends, and they know a lot of friends at a dinner party, but they may not understand that these people are not really friends. So what kind of people are your friends, and how do you measure the depth of your relationship with others? Today we'll find out. Your relationship with others is generally divided into six levels, namely nodding greetings, information exchange, exchange of ideas, emotional care, development partner, and soul mate. Let's talk about it separately.
- Nod to greet
The relationship is only better than strangers. When two people meet, they usually nod and say hello to each other without stopping to communicate. Even if two people get together for some reason, they won't talk about topics related to themselves, just chat about the current weather or news, and won't share valuable information. This also seems to be a "like turn" on WeChat.
- Information exchange
The two people who established this relationship have reached some sort of tacit understanding. The two people together are not just talking nonsense, but starting to share some information related to each other. For example, he will tell you which attractions are more fun and where the food is better. You can also ask the other person your own concerns, such as "Is there still a meeting in the company this afternoon?". Many friends on WeChat are in this relationship.
- Exchange of views
Two people together not only exchange some useful information, but also start to make their point of view to each other. For example, you would tell the other person "I don't think the current company arrangement is very reasonable", "Someone does this really deserves a compliment". You can also ask each other for each other's perspectives to exchange ideas and try to build some kind of consensus.
- Emotional care
The above three relationships are still in the stage of being familiar with each other, and they are not friends. At the level of emotional relationship, both parties can be regarded as friends. You start sharing your emotions like "I'm so happy today" "This thing makes me sad". When the other person sees your expression, they will also ask you "what happened today". You start caring about each other's feelings, and it's already a friendship.
- Development partners
If the emotional relationship is only based on mutual concern, then the relationship at the level of development partners has reached the stage of mutual assistance and common development. You not only care about each other, but also support each other in career development, and both parties can see the value of each other. The values of the two sides are relatively consistent, and there are more connection points in reality.
- Soulmates
These are friends at the deepest level, and they see each other as important people in their lives. There is a deep tacit understanding between two people, which is obviously higher than the relationship with other people. Two people have the same values and can do their best to support each other. Even if they haven't seen each other for a long time, the two still trust each other. This is what we usually call "friends".