For those of you who care about the stage and the audience, are you still nervous?

Maybe we're too scared to fail, so getting on stage is always nervous. Worrying about being ridiculed for not being able to speak well, worrying about forgetting words, feeling that there is a deep estrangement between yourself and the audience, although it is unfounded, but this is an over-defensive mental state, and even severe cases may lead to public speaking phobia.

In fact, the problem of nervousness, as a psychological problem, exists in all aspects of life, and nervousness during speech is only one of them. However, since it is a psychological problem, there must be corresponding psychotherapy to help us get out of the tense predicament. Next, the editor will introduce four kinds of psychotherapy to overcome tension.

(1) Bold imagination

Our nervousness most of the time comes from subconsciously imagining the pictures of our speech failure and being laughed at. In fact, this is a kind of risk estimation by our brain, but it will affect our performance to some extent, so we The tension caused by this negative image needs to be overcome through a positive image.

We can meditate before going on stage, or practice many times in advance, imagine successful and popular images, or imagine ourselves as heroes such as giants or superman, and imagine the audience as dwarfs or vulnerable people waiting for you to save, etc. , as long as the imagination is realistic enough, and even occasionally makes you laugh, your dominant consciousness will be easier to restore, and the tension will no longer exist.

(2) Positive hints

As I said just now, most of our nervousness comes from the negative consciousness and imagination at the subconscious level. certain psychological hints.

Keep giving yourself positive hints and tell your heart: "No one is more familiar with what I'm going to talk about than I am, I'm an expert on this, I'm as popular as the subject, and I can definitely tell it well...  " By influencing the subconscious level through positive cues at the conscious level, it's easier to let go of tension in the long run.

(3) Helping people

Sometimes we get nervous because the audience doesn't give us a positive response, but instead is dead. The big reason is that our speech is useless to others! If you want to avoid the tension of this situation on stage, focus on helping people when preparing and speaking.

Your speech is not for show, but to be useful to people, not to make excuses, but to be able to help others. As Lu Zhanka, a well-known anchor in the Himalayas, emphasized: "It is more important to explain things clearly than to say them beautifully; to speak frankly and sincerely, even if it is not flashy, but very happy; to be the most authentic self, it is the same to speak."

So now that you know that the purpose of speaking is to help others, not to fool others, then divert your attention from worrying and nervousness to how to speak well in order to help others. When you think with the mentality of helping others Naturally not nervous.

(4) Quick integration

Sometimes we will subconsciously regard the audience as the enemy , especially when the audience does not have any positive feedback on your speech, once the enemy's concept is formed, the tension will increase without limit! So we need a way to turn an enemy into a friend, which is to integrate into the audience .

In order to integrate yourself into it, you must have the psychological experience of integration. First of all, don’t treat the audience as outsiders from the subconscious. The audience is nothing more than a friend who has yet to get to know each other. Sooner or later, they will get to know each other one day. When facing friends, just show your most natural and real side ; If you cannot subconsciously fit in, then go directly to the scene in advance and have some very casual and natural interactions with the audience who arrive in advance, such as asking them to fill out a questionnaire, turn off their mobile phones, etc., or you can stand in front of the audience in advance or It is also a way to psychologically integrate into the side and other positions to slowly adapt to the welcome and calm down.

When I subconsciously accept that the audience is my friend, and we integrate into the atmosphere of the live audience, the tension will gradually disappear. Think about it, are you still nervous when chatting with your good friend?

In fact, the state of tension is an instinct of our human beings to face the unknown . If a person is not nervous when in danger, it will be difficult for him to survive in danger. Therefore, there is a state of tension in our genes.

But nowadays, if you want to overcome tension, the best psychotherapy is a method that can help you quickly familiarize yourself with an unfamiliar environment. Among them, bold imagination, positive suggestion, helpfulness to others, and quick integration are four good methods . help!