The really powerful people do not rely on curry favor to manage their contacts, but obtain them through these 3 ways
The role of Fan Shengmei must be famous in the hit TV series "Ode to Joy" in 2018. She usually knew many friends in the play, but when Fan Shengmei's father was lying on the hospital bed and needed surgery fees, these usually well-educated friends pushed Fan Shengmei's request one by one.
Many times, we have a false perception that managing people requires compromise and flattery, but such management will only lead to inequality between people.
So, truly powerful people manage their relationships not by ingratiating themselves, but by these three effective ways.
- Improve your own value and give yourself the foundation to accumulate contacts =================================================================================
I remember I used to be afraid of people asking me questions. Over time, I was unable to help others solve their problems, and others were reluctant to solve them for me for no return. Later, I found that when I asked someone something I didn't understand, I stopped impatiently dealing with it. Because I have also mastered some solutions, the communication at this time is equivalent to a process of learning to exchange ideas.
The relationship between people is actually a process of resource exchange. You provide the value I need, I provide the value you need, and then communicate with each other and grow together. When you don't have enough values, it doesn't matter how many people with high values you know, because you don't have the capital to change with others. Therefore, if you want to manage contacts, you have to increase your value as a light to attract other lights.
- Invest more in people who are similar to your own level ==========================================================
A truly powerful person will think that the cost of dating a person is equivalent to an investment in his eyes.
He knew Andy's value, so he never worried that a partner would let his investment fail. What kind of people you interact with determines your pattern. You won't make enough money, but making a worthy friend can benefit you for a lifetime. The right investment is not a project, but a relationship on a similar level to your own.
Networking is more important for giving and mutual benefit =============================================================
Many friends ≠ extensive connections, contacts and friends are different. No matter how high or low their friends are, their topic is the same, they can talk about anything, but the nature of the relationship is mutual benefit. Before getting to know Liu Bang, Han Xin was just a man who did nothing on the street and even had to endure the humiliation of his crotch. After getting to know Liu Bang, he took a fancy to Han Xin's talent and began to reuse Han Xin.
Their future and future witnessed the prosperity of Han Gaozu. Building a relationship is never a requirement or a reward. This is a mutually beneficial process. Mutual benefit is the foundation of interpersonal communication. Harmonious interpersonal relationships cannot be established without mutual benefit. If you get help from someone, you should give it back, which is a good prerequisite for a relationship.
- Need to manage contacts. Those relationships built on flattery and flattery can only be seen as pushing a cup to the table for a cup. When it comes to reciprocity, these relationships collapse almost immediately. Does this connection matter? The answer is very important. Who a person ends up being depends a lot on the people around him. However, learning how to manage contacts is more important to you than getting them. The significance of network resources lies in the exchange of resources. The former point is that you are a resource worth exchanging.