Talking in the workplace is a skill, and you must understand these truths if you are outspoken
Speaking and doing the right thing are necessary skills to survive in the system, and sometimes speaking is more important than doing. Some people work hard, but they offend the leader because they say it inappropriately, and the previous efforts are destroyed once; some people want to make jokes to ease the atmosphere, but it makes the atmosphere more awkward; some people accidentally hurt with a sentence others, make them unhappy.
Speaking is not only a skill, but also an emotional intelligence. In the workplace, those who speak are like ducks in the water; those who cannot speak struggle. At work, we often hear this reminder: don't say things that shouldn't be said. However, many people do not have a clear understanding and judgment on what "should not" be. So, what should not be said in the system?
In the workplace, speaking indiscriminately is not a direct expression, but it will make people feel that you are too casual and have no boundaries and proportions. Measuring speaking and doing is one of the hallmarks of maturity. When you speak, you should clearly know where you stand, learn to judge the situation correctly, and don't talk about other people's privacy lightly. In the workplace, you should learn to listen to others and then express your opinion. The workplace is very jealous and assertive and can't listen to other people's opinions.
If you look at it, you will find that likable people are good at listening to others and thinking from their perspective rather than sticking to their own. This is also a sign of high emotional intelligence. No one can live independently from the group, so learning to get along with people is very important. Knowing how to communicate with others gets everyone's approval. Knowing how to collaborate with others can create greater value.
1. If you are uncertain, you should not say it
I used to be responsible for sending documents to leaders, but I just changed my mind. After the new leader read the document, I hesitated to say a few more polite words in an attempt to impress the new leader, but I didn't know what to say, so I left after finishing the work. Later, in getting along, it proved that what I did at that time was right. Because the new leader is straightforward and down-to-earth, he doesn't like on-the-spot compliments.
Just imagine how self-defeating it would be if I said something inappropriate to show that I am close to the leader. Don't talk casually because you're eager to show it before you know the leader's personality, temperament, work habits, and way of doing things. Because, you don't know what leaders like to hear and hate, you might want to flatter you, but you want to show credit, but leaders think you're arrogant. Rushing to talk is like digging a hole for yourself and not being able to jump out. Don't feel like you've missed an opportunity to perform without speaking in front of big leaders. Smart people know that speaking in the workplace would rather not speak than make mistakes.
2. Things that are not true or false should not be said
Gossip is bound to be heard in the office. However, it is difficult for us to judge the truth of the matter due to too many uncertain factors, such as position restrictions, unit ethos, rumors and intentions. Forget it at this time, don't go to the bottom of the question, spread it freely, or even jump to conclusions. The so-called good things do not go out, and bad things travel thousands of miles. The most important thing in the unit is to be articulate. After you say a word, the initiative is not in your hands, but in the hands of the person who hears it.
3. Leaders should not say taboo words
Each leadership level is different, the model is different, the thinking is different, and the taboo content is also different, but there are some general rules for your reference.
- Don't say your unit is bad in front of outsiders
There is a new young man in our unit. Once we went out for training with our brother unit, and the atmosphere after class was very relaxed. The young man said to the person in charge of his brother's unit, "Director Liu, your unit is great. It's a pity that I failed the exam a few times before." Our leader was present when he said this, and the atmosphere suddenly became awkward. He said this sentence originally to compliment the leader of the other party, but inadvertently explained that our unit is not as good as other units, which made the leaders feel uncertain and unstable when they first arrived.
Later, as long as it was in contact with other units, the leaders would not allow the young man to participate. In the eyes of leaders, if the unit is not good, it is also a closed door problem. If it is said in front of outsiders, it is the leader's face; if it is written to a senior leader, it is a whistleblower. Once you meet a narrow-minded leader, I'm afraid you won't be able to wear your little shoes in the future.
- Don't praise the person he hates in front of the leader
If you admire leadership at a certain level, your immediate leaders may feel that you are one of those admired people who are inexplicably occupied by the team; if you admire subordinates who are marginalized by the leader, the leader will see you as Question his decisions and judgments. An organization has an important rule of survival: obey the leadership. Not only must obey the task assigned by the leader, but also be consistent with the leader's ideas and preferences. If you can't identify with your heart, at least don't oppose your leadership on the surface. If you know someone the leader doesn't like, don't tell the leader how good the person is. Maybe he's really good, but he can't show it.
- You should not speak ill of others behind their backs
Human relationships in institutions are complex, and they are often not as peaceful as we may seem on the surface. People from a faction may not have much overlap in the unit, and two people who are ostensibly close may be in a rivalry. Don't judge anyone behind their backs because you can't understand the relationship between the person who listens to you and the person you judge. If you don't know how to speak beautifully, it's best to keep your mouth shut and don't say inappropriate things, it's also a way to protect yourself.