In the hearts of your friends, it doesn't really matter at all

No matter how confident you are, please remember a rule, most people are not interested in you, you are not as important in everyone's minds as you see or think, and your departure will not have a big impact on the team , don't overestimate the importance of yourself in the team. Many people are going to change jobs and worry that the team will have problems. You can leave, the sky will definitely not fall. A lot of facts have proved that you are really not in the eyes of your friends. It's important, stop doing stupid things that deceive yourself.

[1] The Law of Psychological Resource Allocation - People will only have a psychologically intimate dependence on those they recognize, that is, it is impossible for one person to hold so many people in his heart. Isn't it the same for you?

We often comfort ourselves in this way. In this life, we can have three or five confidants, one or two people who understand us, and one person who can tell our hearts is enough. This kind of thinking of ours does not actually represent your mental resource allocation. The basic rule is, in fact, you can't hold a few people in your heart. You don't have a deep impression on most of the people around you, and there are not many places where you can interact with them. Some people have the same idea as our own. You should estimate your position with your friends normally. Don't use them when few people care about you. At that time, your psychological gap will be difficult to make up. of.

[2] To do an intimacy evaluation - many people know that they are not that important in the eyes of their friends, there will be a gap in their hearts, and they feel very sad. Therefore, you must do an intimacy evaluation in order to correctly recognize your true nature. the current state of interpersonal relationships.

For our personal connections, we must do a basic action, that is, to evaluate intimacy, the value of personal connections must be sorted, and this sorting must be based on the person's character and importance to you. Speaking of, when this sort finally comes to a result, you have to verify one by one, prove one by one, and confirm one by one, so that you can make yourself more rational and build a wider network of people. Don't know it. A bunch of people, none of them useful.

[3] Accept the reality of being betrayed - based on the 262 rule in psychology, no matter how well you do, only 20% of people will like you. The key is that 20% of people hate you or even scold you. Some of you have only one feeling for you, not much with you, not without you, so the smiling face is just a courtesy to you, so when a friend gets better with others, in fact, it is not called betrayal, it is called transfer of preferences , don't feel uncomfortable anymore, dare to accept it, you will be considered mature mentally.

If you have experienced being betrayed by others, you must understand in your heart that this is inevitable. Only by thinking about these things will you not live in case every day. The situation has become bigger, and everything has become smaller. This kind of indifferent mentality shows that you have become a mature and immature person. The most important manifestation in your heart is that you are very entangled and can’t let go. You still have this mentality every day. Is it tormenting you?