> > In the hearts of parents, children are always children who need their help and care. I can't bear to let my children suffer a little bit of fatigue, so I undertake all the housework activities by myself. In fact, cultivating children's housework ability and allowing children to properly participate in housework has great benefits for children's growth, and children who can do housework will be better in the future. >

Ms. Liu is such a parent. She gave birth to a child relatively late, and only gave birth to a daughter in middle age. Coupled with the relatively good economic conditions, I feel that girls should be pampered and do not need to worry about housework. I hope to cultivate my daughter into a little princess. In daily life, the children are not allowed to do anything, and all the daily chores are done by the nanny and Ms. Liu at home.

My daughter is 4 years old and has never dressed herself, let alone do housework. As a result, on the first day of kindergarten, the child came back crying. It turned out that after a nap, every child would get up and put on their own clothes and shoes. She was the only one who couldn't and needed help from the teacher. The daughter felt very ashamed and burst into tears in kindergarten.

Allowing children to participate in housework properly can not only exercise children's self-care ability , but also have many positive benefits for growth.

What are the benefits of raising children to do housework?

1. Enhance family responsibility

Cultivating children to do housework can effectively enhance their sense of family responsibility , and children will realize that they and their parents are a whole and belong to the family. By participating in housework, children will understand that every family member needs to make efforts and contributions for the family, thereby cultivating children's sense of family responsibility. Otherwise, the child will lack an intuitive awareness of the family , and will not develop a sense of identity and belonging.

2. Exercise hands-on ability

For young children, children's participation in housework can exercise children's hands-on ability . Children's brain development and physical abilities are growing, and they can exercise their hand-eye coordination ability and basic ability to deal with daily chores by doing housework. Effectively improve children's brain reactivity , make children smarter and more active.

3. Have a sense of time

Young children have just begun to participate in housework. Because of their unfamiliar skills, it often takes a long time. As the child becomes more proficient in housework, the time spent will gradually shorten. Allow children to allocate reasonable time for housework and play by making time plans. This method can let the children in the early childhood have the initial concept of time , learn time management, and effectively avoid the child 's procrastination in the future.

Due to the young age of the child, the comprehension and hands-on abilities are not yet fully developed. Parents need to be clear that letting children do housework is not really to achieve practical effects such as cleaning and induction, but to cultivate children's abilities in all aspects through housework.

What problems should parents pay attention to when raising children to do housework?

1. Choose simple chores that are suitable for children

When parents train their children to do housework, they should choose simple housework and housework suitable for their children. It needs to be in line with the child's growth pattern and choose things that the child can easily complete. Some housework is too heavy, or there are certain dangers , parents need to pay attention to avoid. For example, for a child who is too young, parents cannot arrange to help wash the dishes, otherwise it is easy to break the dishes and cause injury.

2, the instructions are simple and clear

When parents arrange their children to do housework, they need to pay attention to the instructions issued should be simple and clear , clearly tell the children what to do, and explain how to do it in the simplest words. Because the child's ability to understand is limited , if the instructions given by the parent are too complicated, the child may not understand it. Confusion in thinking will lead to the inability to complete housework smoothly, and is not conducive to the cultivation of various abilities.

3. Gradually change the housework content

The housework assigned to children should not be static. When children gradually get used to doing housework, they have been able to master some basic housework proficiently . With the growth of age, parents can appropriately add some new housework content. Otherwise, the same kind of housework will continue, and the child will feel bored and lack of freshness .

For children, as they grow older, they become curious about the things around them and eagerly want to join the world of adults. When parents train their children to do housework, they can make proper use of this positive psychology of their children, and guide their children to actively participate in housework through the following three methods.

In what ways can parents guide their children to do housework?

1. Appropriate display of weakness

Parents can show weakness when they get along with their children. In this way, they can stimulate children's desire for protection , and let children actively want to do something for parents and provide help to parents. For example, parents can pretend to be too tired or feel unwell, let their children do some simple housework for themselves, and thank them when they are done. Enhance the child's sense of achievement and satisfaction , and cultivate his enthusiasm for housework.

2. Positive attitude

Parents need to pay attention to their attitudes when communicating with their children on a daily basis . For housework, it should be a positive expression, and don't let children feel that doing housework is very tiring. Make a positive description of housework, let the children feel that doing housework is a happy thing, which can not only keep the family environment clean and tidy, but also have the effect of exercising .

3. Do not treat housework as punishment

Parents need to be careful not to see housework as a punitive behavior. For example, after a child makes a mistake, let the child be punished by doing housework . This will make the child realize that doing housework is a bad thing, and it is linked to making mistakes and punishment, which will reduce the enthusiasm of the child .

Summarize:

According to Julie Liscott, director of freshmen at Stanford University, "By having children do chores, they realize that they have to do the chores of life, which are part of life."

Appropriately allowing children to participate in housework, the changes brought about by children's growth are visible to the naked eye. It can make children more active, and it can also increase their sense of identity and responsibility for the family, improve children's ability to exercise hands-on ability and self-care ability, and even greatly promote children's character shaping and personality development. Parents may wish to let go of their love for their children and properly allow their children to participate in housework, so that the children can become better in the future.