We all have the experience of being teased by our parents as children. When we were young, our parents told us that watermelon seeds must not be swallowed in our stomachs, otherwise they would take root and sprout in our stomachs, grow large watermelons, and burst our belly. We are convinced that when we eat watermelon, we carefully remove all the watermelon seeds, and we even hate watermelon and never eat it again.

Recently, a video of a child eating chocolate cake went viral. The little boy in the video was celebrating his birthday. The mother prepared a chocolate birthday cake for the baby. The baby was very happy and sat at the table obediently waiting for the mother to feed him. But the mother made a joke with the baby. She dug up a piece of cake with a fork and handed it to the baby's mouth, and said to the baby, "Baby, this cake is made by Baba!"

The baby spit out the chocolate cake and cried after hearing it. The mother quickly coaxed him when she saw the baby's reaction, but the baby was still crying very sad. While being amused by the baby, netizens are also thinking about a question: Should parents joke with their children? Which jokes are not allowed?

Why do parents like to joke with their children?

• 1. love children

Children are gifts from angels to parents. Some parents love their children too much and don't know how to express their love for their children. They also tease their babies by joking.

• 2. Treat it as a pleasure

Some parents think that their children are too cute, and every action and word is full of innocence, so they can't help joking and teasing their children, wanting to see more cute reactions from their children. Every time a child reacts greatly to a parent's joke, they find it very funny, treat it as a game and fun, and enjoy it.

• 3. Narcissism

Some parents like to use a joking way to find a sense of presence in their children, such as deliberately hiding in the mall, watching their children panic and looking for themselves, they will feel that they are needed, and the children cannot live without them.

What are the negative consequences of inappropriate jokes?

• 1. Misleading children

Children are still young, their brains are not fully developed, and they do not have good logical and discriminating thinking skills. They cannot tell which parent's words are a joke and which are true. They will think that every word their parents say is a real. Therefore, when parents joke with their children, the children will also believe it and follow the parents' words.

This will lead to the fact that if parents often joke with their children, it is easy to mislead the children. Parents say that the outside is very scary, and there are big bad wolves that will eat people, and the children will think that the space other than the home is unsafe. If things go on like this, they will be reluctant to go out, and even become timid and cowardly, very dependent on their parents.

• 2. Aggravate children's anxiety

Innocent children will take every word their parents say for the truth, and sometimes a joke from a parent can easily make the child anxious and overwhelmed. When the child finally got a candy through his own efforts, the parents joked with the child: "Can you give the candy to the mother?" The child was unwilling and felt embarrassed. Child: "Don't be so stingy, my mother wants to eat too." The child cried out in a hurry, no matter how hard it was to coax it.

Parents should learn to empathize, think about things from the perspective of the child, and not let the child live in anxiety or even self-blame because of a joke.

• 3. Frustration and low self-esteem

Curiosity is the nature of children. Many children have asked their parents such questions: "Mom, where did I come from?" The parents couldn't explain it clearly, so they joked with the children: "I picked you up from the trash can." Every time this joke is made, the child will cry and the parents will laugh.

This kind of joke will actually destroy the close relationship between the child and the parents, and make the child think that he is really not the child of the parents, which will cause deep anxiety and frustration, and even feel inferior because of it. close.

What kind of joke parents can't make?

Appropriate jokes can shorten the distance between parents and children and make the family atmosphere more relaxed and interesting, but there are several jokes that cannot be played, which will affect the healthy growth of children.

• 1. No vulgar jokes allowed

Some parents will deliberately play some vulgar jokes with their children, and even take sexual cues to tease their children with the baby's body. For young children, they are at a critical stage of enlightenment, and they need the correct guidance of parents and family members. Vulgar pornographic jokes will have a bad impact on children and are not conducive to children's mental health and growth.

Parents should not only not make vulgar jokes with their children, but also stop other family members or relatives from teasing their children with pornographic jokes. They must refuse seriously and must not be ignored.

• 2. No jokes to deceive or scare children

Some parents like to frighten their children. When they see their children being frightened, they will laugh and find it very cute and funny. Sometimes, in order to keep the child obedient and not noisy, he would say something to frighten the child, such as "If you cry again, you will be taken away by the monsters". These jokes and words can make children very anxious, make them feel insecure, and even become afraid to go out and be reluctant to interact with others.

There are also parents who like to lie to their children, and always make promises that they cannot keep, such as promising their children to go to the playground on weekends, but they do not keep them, and the children are perfunctory when they ask. Let children doubt their parents, distrust their parents, and begin to alienate their parents, which is not conducive to the establishment of a harmonious parent-child relationship.

3. Jokes that affect the establishment of children's correct three views are not allowed

Many parents don't realize that sometimes a casual joke from a parent will affect the establishment of the child's correct three views. For example, some parents say to their children: "If you make noise again, the police will take you away!" This kind of words will make children think that the police are bad people and will hurt themselves, so when the children are in danger in the future, they will not know how to report to the police. Asking for help is very likely to miss the best time for rescue and lead to serious consequences.

Some parents will joke with their daughters: "Do you want to marry a rich man when you grow up, so that you can live a comfortable life." This kind of joke will make children feel that life does not require struggle and independence, As long as you marry a rich husband, you can live a comfortable life.

This kind of discourse will actually seriously distort the child's three views, affect the establishment of the child's correct values, outlook on life, world outlook, and even affect and change the child's life, which is not a good thing for the child.

The growth of children requires the correct guidance of parents, and parents cannot base their happiness on the pain of their children. How do you feel about parents joking with their children? Feel free to leave a message in the comments section to discuss.