Self-confidence can make people brave to express their own strengths, so as to get more opportunities. It also allows people to actively cope with difficulties and not give up. Inferiority is just the opposite. When a child has an inferiority complex, it will bring a lot of harm to growth, which will seriously affect the character building and future study and life. Therefore, parents must not ignore the psychological problems of their children, especially if they have low self-esteem.

There is a 5-year-old boy in Mr. Liu's family. He is quite introverted, especially when facing strangers. Character, let the child become more cheerful and generous.

A few days ago, Mr. Liu's mother's birthday, relatives and friends gathered in the hotel to celebrate. Several of the guests who attended the birthday party brought their children, so someone suggested that the children perform a show for the birthday star to wish the old man a happy birthday. Mr. Liu responded positively and pushed his son, wanting him to be the first to sing a birthday song for grandma. Unexpectedly, his son hid behind him, and did not dare to come forward. He whispered in his mouth: "I don't dare, I can't sing well."

The timid expression of Mr. Liu's son is actually a kind of inferiority complex. If parents can't give enough attention to help children resolve their inner inferiority complex, it will bring a lot of harm to growth.

What harm will low self-esteem bring to a child's growth?

1. Affecting character building

The feeling of inferiority will seriously affect the character of the child, causing the child to become more and more introverted and afraid to communicate with strangers. And it will also make the child's emotions more sensitive. Because of low self-esteem, he pays special attention to other people's evaluation of himself, and always suspects that others think he is not good. Therefore, there is often an overly sensitive and emotional phenomenon.

2. Interpersonal relationship

The feeling of inferiority will also affect the child's interpersonal relationship. When the child is affected by the feeling of inferiority, he can't get along with the people around him rationally and peacefully, and he always feels that he is inferior to others. Therefore, it is impossible to treat interpersonal relationships with a normal heart, either envious of other people's confident characters or jealousy. And children who cannot have good interpersonal relationships will be difficult to achieve success in future study and life.

3. Affect learning progress

Feelings of inferiority will also affect children's learning. Children feel that they are not good enough, so they will lose confidence in learning, and they will not be able to maintain a positive attitude. Naturally, they will not be able to achieve good grades. This influence also exists in other aspects of children. When children always doubt themselves, they naturally lack curiosity and motivation for new knowledge, and there is no way to grow in progress.

Low self-esteem has a profound impact on children and can be extremely harmful. Therefore, parents should pay attention to observe the performance of their children, especially when the children often say the following three sentences, parents need to pay attention, it is very likely that the children have developed feelings of inferiority.

What manifestations of the child suggest that there is an inferiority complex?

1. I'm sorry, I was wrong

When a child is criticized, he always apologizes and admits his mistake at the first time, feeling that he did something wrong. In this case, it is very likely that there has been an inferiority complex, because confident and optimistic children tend to fight for their reasons, hoping to persuade the other party and strive for their due interests. On the other hand, children with low self-esteem will easily believe the accusations of the other party, and really think that there is a mistake in themselves, so they will admit it hastily at the first time.

2. I can't, I dare not

Some children are always timid when faced with opportunities and dare not move forward bravely, thinking that they are not good enough. This kind of timidity of the child is precisely because of the inferiority complex in his heart. He feels that he cannot do well, so he does not dare to try, and he is afraid that his parents will hate him because of his failure. Therefore, when the child has withdrawn behavior, parents may wish to consider whether the child's behavior is affected by the inferiority complex, rather than accusing the child a lot.

3. I'm like this, I can't change it

There are also some children who always give up on themselves when facing criticism from their parents and say "I am like this, I can't change it". This self-defeating behavior just shows that the child does not have self-confidence in himself and thinks that he cannot become excellent, so he will give up on himself. Parents should pay attention to the child's psychological state, and give positive guidance when the child gives up behavior to help the child regain self-confidence.

If parents find that their children have low self-esteem, they should help their children face it in time. Encourage children to get out of the whirlpool of inferiority and establish self-confidence and positive character. Only in this way can you better face the challenges in life and move towards your own future.

How should parents deal with their children's low self-esteem?

1. More affirmation and encouragement

First of all, when parents get along with their children, they should be more sure of their children's performance. Give praise and encouragement to the child's flashy behavior, so that the child clearly realizes that there is something worthy of praise in him. This will help children build up their self-confidence and ease their low self-esteem. Especially when children face failure, they need more encouragement from their parents so that they can have sufficient confidence to face failure, adjust their state, and challenge again until they succeed.

2. Don’t compare yourself with others

Parents need to be careful not to compare themselves with others in the process of educating their children. Complimenting others too much in front of children and comparing children with others is a serious injury to self-esteem for children, which can easily lead to feelings of inferiority. Therefore, parents should pay attention to regulating their own behavior, and do not always criticize their children through comparison, otherwise it will lead to extremely serious consequences.

3. Cultivate children's talents

Children do not have perfect logical thinking ability, so many times their own cognition often comes from the evaluation of others. Therefore, parents can consciously help their children develop their specialties, find the direction that their children are truly talented and good at, and let their children be better at a certain thing. In this way, a sense of achievement can be obtained, which is more conducive to the cultivation of children's self-confidence and allows children to get rid of their inferiority complex.

Just as Hadfield, a well-known British psychologist, said: "People can exert their potential to more than 500% when they are confident, while people without self-confidence and low self-esteem can only exert 30% of their abilities.

Therefore, parents need to be aware of the obstacles that low self-esteem brings to their children's growth, always pay attention to their children's emotional state, and give corresponding education and guidance in a timely manner when they find abnormalities. Help children overcome their inferiority complex, create a positive and optimistic mood, and better overcome the difficulties in life.

Whether your child has low self-esteem and how you dealt with it, you are welcome to leave a message to discuss.