Children who are about to go to primary school have no rules, talk to their family members very rudely, eat, wash and procrastinate, and are domineering and arrogant at home. These problems of children are caused by their parents.

The daughter of Xiaoqiu's family is six years old and will soon start elementary school. However, the children have to be fed by their mother and grandmother to eat, and, while eating and playing, it takes two hours to eat a meal. Moreover, the child has a great temper, is rude to the family members, and speaks harshly, even the grandmother. The children of Xiaoqiu's family can be said to be like an emperor at home, domineering and arrogant, and the family can't do anything about her. No matter what the child says is wrong or what he does wrong, the family dote on the child, tolerate all the shortcomings of the child, do not reprimand or beat and scold the child, and let the child act recklessly, which is very arrogant.

Professor Li Meijin said that before the child is six years old, parents need to set rules for their children, so that children can learn restraint and patience, and the younger the child, the easier it will be to discipline. Only when children stick to the rules set by their parents and develop a habit will they become disciplined and better.

What are the behaviors of children who have no rules?

1. Disrespect to the elders in the family

Nowadays, many children are spoiled by their elders without any rules. Not only do they not call their grandparents, but they directly call their elders by their names. Some children even add some ugly adjectives when calling their grandparents' names. The grandma made the meal and told the child to eat. The child disliked the grandma for interrupting watching TV, so he shouted at grandma , "It's really annoying, it's really annoying, interrupt me to watch TV, I'll wait for you to look good". These behaviors of children are extremely disrespectful to their elders. When children develop this habit, they will naturally not respect others.

2. Domineering and arrogant

Some children are very domineering despite their young age, and everyone in the family must obey his commands and his words. The same is true in kindergarten. When it is time for dinner, the teacher asks the children to line up to wash their hands. A very domineering and arrogant child said, "You all wait a moment, I wash my hands first, and you wash them later". When eating, ask the teacher to be the first to serve the meal for you, and ask the teacher to put yourself first when queuing up for school. When children play together, they should be the first to play first, hold their favorite toys, and do not let other children play. This kind of domineering and arrogant child will only have the protection of his family and teachers at home and kindergarten. After entering primary school, no one will listen to his instructions. And let such domineering and arrogant children become the target of public criticism, isolated and reprimanded by teachers.

3. Selfish and self-centered

Generally speaking, children of only-child families are more selfish, like to be self-centered, and never consider the feelings of others. I feel that my parents and grandparents should cook for me, feed me, help me dress, and take me to and from school. Also, I take for granted the help of my parents and family members. Grandma was sick and was late for a while after arriving at kindergarten. When the child saw Grandma, he was angry and lost his temper at Grandma. As Ikeda Daisaku said, being extremely sensitive to one's own pain, but unaware and insensitive to others' pain, is the selfishness of human nature and the sadness of human nature.

Montessori said that the kind of person parents expect their children to become has been decided in the early childhood and will form the basis of the child's personality. That is to say, the children's procrastination, lack of respect, and domineering are closely related to their parents' education.

What are the reasons behind the child's unruly procrastination and other bad behaviors

1. Parental indulgence

Many parents smile after their children make mistakes, or say some innocuous remarks and let it go. This is a kind of connivance by parents to their children's mistakes. For children, it is the parents who acquiesce and agree with their behavior. Over time, parental indulgence will become a habit of children, and parents don't even notice it, take it for granted, and don't take it seriously.

2. The favor of the elders in the family

Nowadays, many parents are busy with work and have no time to take care of their children, so they choose to leave it to the elderly at home to take care of them. We all know that the elderly dote on children very much, which is often referred to as "the next generation." The old man regards his grandson and granddaughter as his own blood inheritance, which is very precious. Do your best to satisfy the child's requirements, and the child's words are executed like a decree . As a result, children develop domineering and arrogant behaviors.

3. Children lack the concept of right and wrong

Many parents fail to respond in time, criticize or reprimand their children when their children make mistakes for the first time, or when they call their grandparents by their first names, or say some unpleasant words to their elders . This situation will make the child think that what he is doing is right, confuse the child's view of right and wrong, and make the child more domineering and arrogant.

As the old saying goes, you can't make a circle without rules, and you can win battles by following the rules. Children who have no rules since childhood will be difficult to change when they grow up. And, in the process of growing up, it will create a lot of trouble.

Setting rules for children before the age of six will make them better

1. When children make mistakes, parents correct them in time

Make rules for your child as early as possible, and correct and remind your child as soon as they make mistakes . In this way, children will have a view of right and wrong, establish rules and form their own habits. Every time the child says something excessive to the elder, the mother should correct the child's mistake in time, and the child will correct it gradually.

2. Unified education method

When educating children, it is not only necessary for both parents to have a unified education method, but also the cooperation of the elderly at home. When the family unifies the education method, the child makes a mistake and no one intercedes for him, the child will realize his mistake and admit his mistake.

3. Be patient and detailed to solve doubts for children

For children before the age of six, there are many behaviors and reasons that are incomprehensible. Parents need to be patient and solve their doubts in detail. If the child procrastinates to eat, the mother can bring a picture of the human digestive system to explain the function of the digestive system to the child and what are the benefits to our human body. When a child learns that food stays in the mouth for a long time, bacteria can develop, and eating too slowly can give the digestive system no rest. This can not only cultivate children's dining etiquette, but also allow children to eat independently, and change the behavior of procrastinating and needing to feed.

4. Make a schedule for your child

Parents can create a schedule for their child that needs to be improved on a daily basis. A well-established plan requires the cooperation of the family to implement it . Such as children go to bed late, can not get up early in the morning, often late. The family can discuss together, let the children participate in the discussion, and set a certain time to go to bed and wake up. However, it takes a family's perseverance to persevere in order to be effective.

Parents are role models for children, personal tutors for children, and supervisors of children's behavior. Therefore, when parents make mistakes in their children, they should correct them in time to help their children establish a sense of rules and respect others.

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