Nowadays, there are people with high IQ in this society. Among the college students everywhere, there is not only a need for talents who can read, but people with high emotional intelligence are more and more valued. Therefore, many parents put improving their children's emotional intelligence in parenting education, because emotional intelligence has become a criterion for judging whether a person is excellent .

However, in real life, many parents have not done a good job in educating their children's emotional intelligence, and some parents even don't know how to improve their children's emotional intelligence. In fact, if you want to improve your child's emotional intelligence, it is very simple. First of all, you must pay attention to whether the child has these three characteristics.

Children with poor interpersonal relationships and no friends are a sign of low emotional intelligence

Colleague Xiaofang has been very troubled recently because of her child's interpersonal relationship. We are all persuading Xiaofang to say, "Isn't it easy for us to make friends? Why are you so worried?" Who knew that Xiaofang said that her son often interacts with people at school Fight, and now there is no friend in the class.

We asked Xiaofang why the child always likes to fight with people. Xiaofang said that her son is impatient and does not like to share with others. He often conflicts with people when playing games. Originally, Xiaofang also felt that the interaction between the children would be all right. Who knew that these bad habits of her son would become more and more intolerable. Now her son has become the garlic in the class, and no one dares to approach.

And Xiaofang also said that his son is still young, if he does not focus on developing interpersonal skills, how can it be beneficial to his future development? We all said that this situation of our son may be related to emotional intelligence, which accounts for a large part of interpersonal communication, and emotional intelligence is related to all aspects of a person's life. After hearing this, Xiao Zhang also decided to start improving his son's emotional intelligence. After all, as an adult in the society, he understands the importance of emotional intelligence to a person, so he must pay close attention to cultivating his children's emotional intelligence.

What are the effects of low emotional intelligence on children?

1. Poor interpersonal skills

Parenting experts say that the most intuitive impact of low emotional intelligence on children is poor interpersonal skills. We will find that children who are well-liked in life can talk and have a good relationship with everyone, and are welcome in any place, while children with low emotional intelligence have few friends, and most of them are introverted and do not like to talk. When interacting with people There are a lot of bad things about him. Many children fail to make friends in their lives, and relationships often break down because their emotional intelligence is too low.

2. Affect the child's ability to work

In the workplace, emotional intelligence is a very important existence. People with high emotional intelligence are more likely to be recognized by their bosses, and their cooperation with colleagues will be very pleasant. Low emotional intelligence will not only affect teamwork in the workplace, but also will not be valued by the boss, which has a great impact on a person's work . For children, the impact of low emotional intelligence when they are young is small, but when they grow up, the impact on their work is very profound.

3. It is not conducive to the comprehensive development of children

The influence of emotional intelligence on a person is in all aspects. We will find that children with high emotional intelligence are also very good at learning, because they can flexibly use their abilities in all aspects. On the other hand, children with low emotional intelligence are very rigid in doing things and like to get to the bottom of their heads, which can also be reflected in all aspects of their lives. Therefore, children with high emotional intelligence have a common feature, that is, they have a high ability to deal with things.

So what are the three characteristics of children with low emotional intelligence?

1. Self-centred without regard to the feelings of others

A person’s emotional intelligence can best be seen in interpersonal communication. Children with low emotional intelligence have poor interpersonal skills. They are often not so popular. This is because when interacting with children with low emotional intelligence, they will find that they like to think about themselves. Center, without considering the feelings of others. When interacting with them, others will always feel that they have to take care of their emotions and feelings, but they cannot respond accordingly. This unequal relationship will make people with low emotional intelligence lose more friends.

2. Poor ability to control emotions and spread negative energy

The ability to control emotions can also reflect the level of emotional intelligence. Children with low emotional intelligence cannot control their emotions well. When faced with negative emotions and negative emotions, they cannot resolve them by themselves, nor can they vent in a reasonable way. In life, I always like to convey bad emotions to others and guide others' emotions. Over time, others will find that such a person cannot spread positive energy to others, and will only make people around him sigh with him.

3. There is a problem with character behavior

Children with low emotional intelligence also have character and behavioral problems when interacting with people. For example, when some children interact with others, they like to talk about others behind their backs or speak ill of others, which is very impolite and a manifestation of low emotional intelligence. Although everyone has the mentality to talk about gossip, but when interacting with friends, if such behavior always occurs, it will leave a bad impression on people, which is very detrimental to his interpersonal communication.

Finally, to improve the emotional intelligence of children, what should parents do?

1. Parents need to improve their ability to control their emotions

Psychologists say that parents with high emotional control can raise children with high emotional intelligence . The emotional contagion of parents can affect the development of children's emotional intelligence. Now many friends do not realize how important it is to control emotions. Controlling emotions affects all aspects of people's lives. First of all, it can be seen from the attitude of solving problems that some parents have low ability to control their emotions and always look impatient when solving problems, which will also pass on this kind of impatience and irritability to their children, which is not conducive to the children's emotions. promote.

2. Guide children to be positive and optimistic

Personality is not innate and can be changed the day after tomorrow. It is very important to guide children to be positive and optimistic. Many parents will find that their children will gradually become introverted when they reach a certain age. This is because parents do not do a good job of positive guidance. An introverted personality is not conducive to children's development of high emotional intelligence, nor to the improvement of children's interpersonal skills. Therefore, as parents, we should teach children how to change their moods and turn negative emotions into positive emotions.

3. Guide children to consider other people's feelings

In the process of cultivating children's emotional intelligence, a very important step, and also the most critical step, is to guide children to consider the feelings of others, which is also a manifestation of a child's high empathy. Children with strong empathy can think about problems from the standpoint of others and give correct responses, which not only makes people feel that the child is caring and warm, but also makes people feel that the child is smart and alert.

It is very important to improve a child's emotional intelligence, which plays a decisive role in the child's future character, behavior and psychological development, and even affects the child's life. Therefore, the best gift to bring to children's growth should be emotional intelligence education. Finally, do you have any other suggestions on how to guide children's emotional intelligence? Welcome to leave a message in the comment area.