> > People live in society, and it is inevitable to contact and interact with different people, and > social skills will directly determine whether children can integrate into the group more quickly and leave a good impression on others. However, social skills are not innate in children and require appropriate help and guidance from parents. Especially when the > child young , facing the sensitive period of interpersonal relationships, parents should deal with it more carefully. >

Pennsylvania State University and Duke University have collaborated on an experiment on young children. They selected more than 700 kindergarten children across the United States and conducted a long-term follow-up survey on these children.

The results of the study show that children who demonstrate excellent social skills in early childhood, are good at communicating with other children, are willing to help others understand others, and cooperate with others are more likely to be successful in adulthood. Most have advanced degrees and have decent careers.

Experiment leader Robert Wood Johnson believes: " In order to prepare children for a healthy future, helping them develop social and emotional communication skills is one of the most important things we can do. "

What is the "sensitive period of interpersonal relationship"?

Before the child is 4 years old, when he is in contact with others, he will try to establish a one-to-one connection, and strengthen the relationship by exchanging toys and snacks with each other. This stage is called the sensitive period of the relationship.

At this stage, children will actively express their affection, want to make friends with other children, or form a fixed play relationship. And the expression of this kind of affection is often done by sharing and exchanging one's own items. The other party may accept the child's offer, or may not accept it.

So the child will experience the complexities of interpersonal relationships for the first time and realize that not everyone will like him and be friends with him. Children will face some common problems in interpersonal relationships in the early stages of social interaction. Whether the other party cares about them, respects them, and how to deal with rejection and neglect will all be experienced by children one by one during this period.

When children encounter difficulties in interpersonal communication, how parents respond, how to help children ease their emotions, and establish interpersonal relationships correctly becomes a very important issue . If parents don't respond properly, it will directly lead to children's inability to establish correct social concepts and lack of social skills, which will affect their future learning and life.

Faced with the sensitive period of interpersonal relationship of children, what should parents do?

Method 1: Listen patiently

Faced with the social problems that children encounter not going well, parents should listen patiently. For young children, accustomed to the care and accommodation of their families, when they are rejected in interpersonal communication for the first time, they will inevitably be psychologically hurt, and may even fall into self-doubt. At this time, parents should accompany their children quietly, listen to their distress, help their children to channel their emotions, and avoid the backlog of negative emotions.

Method 2: Don't get involved too much

When their children are rejected and neglected by their peers, many parents will forcibly stand up for their children out of distress for their children, and may even quarrel with the parents of the other party. In fact, in the sensitive period of interpersonal relationships, parents do not need to intervene too much in their children's social relationships. Whether it is a pleasant relationship or a quarrel between children, they should let their children experience and solve them by themselves. Only in this way can children develop good social skills in the process of practice. If parents intervene in everything, children cannot learn to get along with others, and naturally there is no way to have more advantages in social interaction.

Method 3: Guide children to think for themselves

Every child has different personalities and different ways of getting along with others. Not all children can get along well together. When a child encounters a social barrier, parents may wish to guide the child to think for themselves, enhance the child's logical thinking ability, and let the child conclude by himself what kind of child is suitable to get along with, and how to interact with others in social interaction. Only by letting children draw conclusions through their own thinking can they truly realize the problem and master the correct social skills.

As the child grows older, about four or five years old, when the child enters kindergarten, he will be out of the sensitive period of interpersonal relationships. At this time, parents should consciously help children develop and improve social skills, so that children can quickly integrate into the collective life and make good friends of their own.

How can parents help their children develop social skills?

Give your kids the freedom to make friends

Some parents like to interfere with their children's making friends, and tell their children every day, either to let them get along with classmates with better conditions, or to hope that their children can get along with classmates with good grades. Adults, with a snobbish eye, divide their children into three, six, and nine classes, and do not want their own children to play with children with poor family conditions and poor academic performance. This feeling is understandable, but this behavior is completely unnecessary. Parents should give their children certain freedom in making friends, without forcing their children to get along with what kind of classmates they must get along with, and learn to respect their children's friends and their freedom.

Encourage your child to invite friends over

The interaction between children is similar to that of adults, and it also requires efforts to maintain and frequent gatherings. Parents may wish to encourage their children to take the initiative to invite friends over to their homes, give them space to play alone, teach them how to entertain their friends, and help them maintain social relationships.

Under the premise of ensuring the safety of children, it is better to leave a free space for children to play together alone. It is not that the parents are always staring at the side, otherwise it is easy to make the child feel restrained, unable to let go of himself, and will not like to be a guest at home again.

Do the right example

At the same time, parents also need to set a correct example in front of their children. When parents communicate with friends, they should show their commitment and concern for their friends in front of their children, so that children can learn to tolerate and care about friends from their parents’ behavior. . If parents are always arguing with their friends, or speak ill of their friends behind their backs, they will naturally fail to set a correct example for their children, and it is easy for their children to follow suit and develop bad social habits.

Summarize

Children with good social skills can cope with various emergencies when interacting with people, and can more easily gain recognition from others, which is of great help in future study and job hunting. Parents need to realize that social skills should be cultivated from an early age, especially in early childhood, to help children correctly cope with the sensitive period of interpersonal relationships, and to help children develop better social skills so that they can develop better in the future.