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For many parents, raising children to grow up is not difficult, but educating children to become talents is very difficult. As children grow up, there will always be problems of one kind or another, all of which trouble their parents.

Many parents said that when educating their children, they always educate their children with the best ideas and knowledge , but the children always go wrong. For example, we will teach our children the concept of honesty, but we find that children will often lie at a certain stage in the process of growth. Even some children are addicted to lying, and their mouths are full of lies , which makes parents instantly disappointed with their children.

Children start to lie, but parents never change

Cousin's eldest son Lele, I don't know when he started to develop the habit of lying . Cousin also discovered Lele's lying behavior some time ago. It turned out that Lele's head teacher once called her cousin and said that Lele often skipped classes to play in Internet cafes, and let her cousin take care of Lele. The cousin was very angry after hearing this, and asked Lele why she skipped class to go to the Internet cafe, but Lele denied it.

Later, when Lele didn't go home after school, my cousin went to the Internet cafe to find it, but found that Lele was playing games there. ? Now I have learned to lie. Later, Lele assured her cousin that she would never go there again. After a while, Lele's head teacher called again, saying that Lele always skipped class, and if it went on like this, she would have to drop out of school. Facing Lele's bad lying behavior, her cousin was very worried.

For play-loving or Internet addiction, parents can change their children's education, but lying is the biggest influence on children. Parents must pay attention to it.

What are the dangers of lying addiction to children?

Harmful to society: Many parents will find that children will lie at a certain stage, no matter what the purpose is, children begin to learn to use lies to solve problems, which will only allow children to achieve their own goals through this wrong way, It will make the child fall deeper and deeper.

Affecting children's future relationships: When children learn to lie and think that lying will benefit them, they become addicted to lying. For people who are addicted to lying, they may be able to lie anytime and anywhere, and they will be surrounded by lies every day, which is very detrimental to their interpersonal communication outside. It is because of my addiction to lying that I was isolated by my classmates.

Adverse effects on physical health: Lying addiction is also very harmful to physical health. When a person tells a lie, the sympathetic nerve center in the brain will transmit bad neurotransmitters, affecting nerve excitation, thus causing harm to the body. Many physical diseases are caused by bad habits. When children are addicted to lying, we will find that their bodies will also be adversely affected.

So why do children always lie?

fear of being scolded

It is wrong for a child to lie, but as a parent, you must first understand why your child is lying. Some children learn to lie because they are afraid of taking responsibility and being scolded by their parents. For example, some children lied to the teacher because they didn't do their homework because they were lazy, but lied to the teacher that they had forgotten their homework . There are also children who accidentally make mistakes and are afraid of being held accountable by their parents, and will lie to cover up their mistakes.

Self esteem too high

Some children also like to exaggerate and say some unrealistic things when interacting with people because of their good face and high self-esteem . Once the lies are exposed, it will affect the children's interpersonal relationships. And if the child often lies because of good face, it is not conducive to the child's psychological development, which may gradually distort the child's psychology and form a wrong outlook on life and world.

Lies to get their own way

Everyone does things and speaks to achieve their own goals. Although children are simple, it does not mean that they do not have their own purpose in life. In life, we often see many children who like to compare. When he wants to compare with others, he will achieve his goal by lying. Many parents find that when their children are in kindergarten, they will exaggerate in order to compare with their children. For example, some children will lie about their parents flying a plane and the house they live in is a castle. These very childish, very childish words can express young children and lie to their own ends.

What should parents do when their children lie frequently?

Communicate with children in time to understand their inner thoughts

Whether it is adults or children, everyone has lied at some point. Lying is equivalent to a shortcut, which can help us lead to our destination smoothly. Occasional lies are acceptable, but once the child is found lying It's time to start paying attention when it's too frequent, or even when symptoms of addiction appear. Parents should communicate patiently with their children in a timely manner, understand their inner thoughts, know why their children lie, and solve the problem of children lying from the root cause.

Restrain children from lying and develop punishments for children

If children lie too often, parents also need to formulate a series of punishment measures to help children restrain their own behavior , because after some children become addicted to lying, they can even tell a lot of lies inadvertently, and even they can’t control themselves. Sometimes outside influences are needed to help children restrain their behavior.

Parents' words and deeds are more useful than empty reasoning

In real life, some children lie under the influence of their parents. If parents often lie in front of their children, for example, they promise to their children but do not fulfill them, and often lie in front of their children when interacting with friends. This will make the child subtly influenced, and the child will imitate the lying behavior of the parents. Therefore, if the child wants to become an upright person, the parents must teach the child by example.

Summarize

When we find that a child begins to lie, the first thing we need to do is to solve the problem of the child's love of lying from the root, and have a patient communication with the child, so that the child can dare to reveal his heart, and don't always scold the child, the parents scolded severely, It will only allow children to constantly protect themselves by lying.