As their children grow older, some parents will find that their children become less and less fond of communicating with them. At this time, the parents' first feeling is that the child is introverted, and then they feel that the child's rebellious period is over. But at this time, many parents often do not know what to do, so the relationship between parents and children is also very alienated.

case analysis:

Some time ago, I ran into a neighbor when I went out. During the chat, the neighbor talked about a recent headache for him. He said that the child has become very introverted recently, and sometimes when chatting with the child, the child will deliberately avoid him. , and recently, I don't like chatting with them more and more. I always finish my meal in a hurry, then go back to my room and don't watch TV with them.

The neighbor's son is in the third year of junior high this year and is about to take the senior high school entrance examination. The husband and wife have strict requirements on him. They want him to be admitted to a key high school in the market. Naturally, there is pressure, but the neighbor said that he suspects that the child seems to be in school. Falling in love, because he once saw his son and a girl in a video by chance. In such a tense study atmosphere, falling in love at this time made him very worried.

So in the conversation with the child, he will consciously or unintentionally go to the child's words, ask him how he is doing at school recently, whether he has met new friends, etc., but it is such a chat topic, but the son ignores it. Yes, do not like to answer. Especially recently, he avoided him and didn't want to communicate with him. His son was a relatively introverted person, which made him even more think that his son was really in love outside.

As parents, when it comes to educating children, we should reflect on ourselves in time to see whether the child's character is related to our usual words and contacts. In addition to being introverted, what are the reasons why children are reluctant to communicate with their parents? Try to get into the heart of the child and let the child grow up healthily.

Why do some children dislike communicating with their parents as they get older? The reasons may be as follows:

1. Children are more disgusted by chat topics

This is the main reason why children are reluctant to communicate with parents. Children are deliberately avoiding some topics of parents, so they do not want to talk to parents. For example, in children's learning, some parents open and close their mouths to study, let the children go out to play, and parents can also talk about learning and say that going out to play is to let the children relax , so that they will be more motivated to learn, etc. Regardless of whether they are open or closed, the topic that parents care about the most is always learning. This topic is the last thing children want to hear when they go home, so they want to avoid this topic and are unwilling to communicate and communicate with parents .

2. Disrespecting children's ideas

When children are young, parents prefer to interfere in their own children's affairs, what do they want to do, what kind of clothes they want to report to, what interest classes they buy, and so on. Parents have to intervene in all aspects, and then make decisions for them on their own, and they do n't respect their children at all. Views, if this continues for a long time, the relationship between parents and children will not only become very tense, but children will feel that they are not respected and are unwilling to communicate with parents.

3. Parents ignore their children’s communication with them

When children have some happy or unhappy things at school, they always want to share with their parents when they go home, but if the parents do not listen to their children at this time, they are busy with their own affairs while listening When the child speaks absent -mindedly, there is no response to what the child says, and the child will feel that the things he shares with his parents are irrelevant , not as important as the parents’ own affairs, so slowly they don’t want to communicate with their parents. and exchange.

Disadvantages of long-term inability to communicate between families

Some parents think this is a very normal situation. When children grow up, they will be unwilling to talk to their parents, so they still get along with their children according to their previous attitudes every day, and some parents think that their children do not love them. Talk to yourself and possibly your peers at school. But in fact, some children are slowly unwilling to get along with other peers. Even introverted children do not like to talk in front of outsiders, but if they have a good relationship with their parents at home, they will not be reluctant to chat with them.

If parents ignore this state of the child, it will have a lot of bad influence on the child. The first thing that will be affected is the relationship between the parent and the child. The relationship between the child and the parent will become more and more estranged because there is no communication between the two. , so the contradictions will become larger and larger, and many problems and estrangements will also arise.

Secondly, children may become withdrawn in character. They are unwilling to communicate with their parents, and they are unwilling to communicate with other people outside. They are often reticent and have no one to talk to about their inner affairs. This is very important for their growth. Adverse.

Parents should put down their posture, face up to the problem, and suggest that parents do this

1. Respect children

Respect children, including respecting children's privacy, respecting children's right to speak, etc. In life, parents should not participate too much . Children will have their own privacy as they grow up. When chatting, parents Don’t keep chasing this topic. It’s better to talk about other light and pleasant topics. In addition, when children communicate with themselves, parents should put down their posture , listen patiently and earnestly , and respond, so that children feel very happy.

2. Don't always pour cold water on your child when chatting

Children are young and their minds are very simple, so they don’t think so much. When the children share joy with themselves, parents should not interrupt immediately, or should they always pour cold water on the children , which will hurt the children Self-esteem, parents can give their children appropriate praise and praise their children to make them more confident.

3. Understand empathy

In the process of communicating with children, parents always like to ask their children in a commanding tone , and they will not consider their children's actions. In fact, children have their own ideas. The age difference between them and their parents is so big, it is inevitable There will be different opinions, and parents should learn to think about problems from the perspective of their children , so that when they encounter problems, both parties can better solve them.

Only by frequent communication between children and parents, the relationship between parents and children will be closer, which is also conducive to the growth of children. For children, having a parent who is also a teacher and a friend makes them very happy. things will benefit them for a lifetime.