Many parents associate good academic performance with a bright future, so they pay special attention to their children's academic performance. However, when it comes to children's learning, most of them feel overwhelmed. Children will not take the initiative to learn, let alone fall in love with learning.

After school, Pingping sits in front of the sofa watching TV, and does his homework only after being urged by his mother every time. When I am doing my homework, I hope to play while doing it, read a comic book for a while after doing homework, or go to eat. In short, when I am not concentrating on finishing my homework, I have to grind for half an hour of homework. hours to complete.

This time, my mother wanted to take Pingping to the supermarket to buy something, and promised Pingping that as long as she finished her homework quickly, she could buy a snack after going to the supermarket. This time I did my homework much faster than usual.

Using material to motivate children to learn is the practice of many parents. I have to say that this method is still effective, but in the long run, material motivation cannot improve children's learning motivation, and it will also bring many disadvantages. .

What are the disadvantages of parents using material to motivate their children to learn?

1. Children fail to recognize the importance of learning

Parents tell their children that if they study hard, they can be rewarded to go to the amusement park once. In the eyes of children, the amusement park is far more attractive than learning, so they ignore learning and fail to realize the importance of learning.

Psychologist Bruner once said: The way to make a child fall in love with learning is to make the child realize that the subject is worth learning. Material incentives will make children study hard in a short period of time, but they often ignore the importance of learning, which is not conducive to children's establishment of systematic learning.

2. The child's internal drive is insufficient

Material rewards are tempting to a child of a few years old, and the child will turn his learning goals into material rewards, and when one day the parents do not give the child material rewards, the child may threaten the parents and say that you will not give it. I reward, then I don't study.

Parents are accustomed to giving their children enticements. Once there is no material reward, children may lose their inner drive to learn, and even threaten their parents with learning to meet their material needs.

What are the main reasons why children are reluctant to study?

1. Easily influenced by the surrounding environment, leading to distraction

Children's learning enthusiasm is not high, mostly because there are more interesting things distracting, take adults looking at their mobile phones, maybe you just want to read a message, but when you see something more interesting, you often unknowingly, Half an hour has passed, and the same is true for children.

Parents should accompany their children more. When their children are studying, they can sit next to them and read a book to see if their children are distracted. Remind the child in time, knock on the table, and let the child focus on learning. After an hour of study, let the child relax properly, and the combination of work and rest can be more focused.

2. Encountered difficulties, resulting in fear of difficulties

Children encounter difficulties in learning and always make mistakes, which inevitably leads to fear of difficulties. Parents tell their children in advance that failure is normal, and this is also a process of learning. Learning from mistakes is often remembered firmly.

Children always do wrong questions, parents should not scold them, but learn to beautify their children's mistakes and see their children's progress. Increase children's self-confidence, dare to accept challenges, start small, and overcome difficulties little by little. Let children find solutions to problems and deal with difficulties calmly.

3. No study plan

Children are still young and often do not plan their studies carefully. A lot of time is wasted, so parents should let their children learn to plan before doing homework. Learn to make plans for every day and every week. With plans, children will know in their minds what they should do and what they should not do, which will create a sense of urgency and can successfully complete the task.

How to make children fall in love with learning, and how should parents guide their children correctly?

1. Cultivate children's fun in learning

Interest is a child's first teacher. Only when a child has a strong interest in learning will they be willing to learn actively. Therefore, parents must be entertaining and entertaining , so that children feel that learning is a happy thing, so as to stimulate their inner potential.

Every child has different interests. Parents should help children find their own interests and stick to it, so that children can be full of energy and devote themselves to learning. Perseverance will surely bring success.

2. Improve children's hands-on ability and actively participate in

Learning is a boring process. If you just teach the theory to the child, it may make the child lose interest in learning. It is better to let the child participate in the hands-on operation instead of memorizing it rigidly. Cultivate children's hands-on ability, let children do more, avoid boring learning, and improve knowledge points from sensory awareness to flexible application.

Children can learn theoretical knowledge while combining knowledge and practice, which can often improve children's memory. Parents can also use modern technological conditions such as computers and mobile phones to let their children understand the knowledge they have learned more vividly, so as to form an image in the brain, which is conducive to the children's in-depth understanding of knowledge points.

3. Affirm your child’s learning outcomes

Learning is a step-by-step process, don't imagine that your child can eat a fat man in one bite. Even if the child has problems in the process of learning, they should be affirmed. Even if the progress is insignificant, they should be motivated and actively respond to each progress of the child, so that the child is full of confidence in the unknown challenges.

Every child has its own strengths and weaknesses, so don’t always stare at your child’s weaknesses, especially those with poor grades. Parents must encourage their children more and don’t give up hope. Let children learn to observe problems from a unique perspective, so as to find their own value. Don't always compare with excellent children, but see the strengths of the children, affirm the children's efforts, improve a little bit, and achieve a qualitative leap from the accumulation of quantity.

When it is found that the child does not like learning and has no subjective initiative, parents should not always reprimand the child, as reprimanding the child will not have any positive effect. If they really want their children to learn actively and fall in love with learning, parents should avoid educational misunderstandings, learn to motivate their children, and let them find their interest in learning, so that they can learn voluntarily. Are there any children around you who do not like to study? What are their parents doing? Do you agree with the point of view in the text? You are welcome to leave a message below.