Parents will be full of joy when they see that their children are well-behaved and cute, but when they see their children make mistakes and do not admit it, it is like seeing a flood of beasts. In any case, children need to be brave, but parents have forgotten that eyes can also deceive people. If children admit mistakes indiscriminately, children will lose trust in parents.

case analysis

Xiao Li takes his son Hao Hao to the playground, and his son likes to play the slide the most. After playing on the slide for a long time, Haohao ran to the side of the twisted car when he saw some children riding the twisted bike. At this moment, another child also ran to the twisting car, and both of them wanted to ride the car.

Haohao saw someone coming, so he took the lead and straddled his legs on the car, but the other kid quit. I pushed Haohao away with one hand. I saw that the child was about to hit me, so I reached out and scratched the child's face. The kid was scratching and crying.

At this time, the two parents also came to the children and saw that their son scratched the faces of other children, so Xiao Li asked his son to apologize, but the son said that he pushed me first. Xiao Li said to his son, "If you push you, you can't scratch other people's faces."

Under Xiao Li's scolding, the son apologized to another child.

It is normal for children to make mistakes, but the attitude of parents has a profound impact on the child's life. It goes without saying that forcing children to admit their mistakes is the most common practice of many parents. It seems to have solved the problem satisfactorily, but in fact it leaves a lot of hidden dangers.

Parents always force their children to admit their mistakes, what impact will it have on the children?

1. Inner fear, dare not conflict with others

When conflicts arise between children and other people, there will be fear, fear that they will be reprimanded, and they may not dare to have conflicts with others. In order to avoid punishment, they may deliberately please each other and become unprincipled.

2. Right and wrong, lose trust in parents

Parents scold their children without asking the reason. In the eyes of children, whether it is their own fault or not, it is their own fault, and they often cannot tell what is right and what is wrong. Without trust, the relationship with parents will also be alienated.

3. Rebellion

Punishment is a way for many parents to educate their children who make mistakes. However, punishment does not make children deeply aware of their mistakes. Instead, they will generate a psychology of rebelliousness and revenge in their hearts. Parents should educate their children on the basis of mutual respect and understanding. Unexplained scolding and the addition of fists and feet cannot fundamentally solve the problem, and will only escalate the conflict.

When a child makes a mistake, parents often say these three words, which can often make the child take the initiative to recognize the mistake

1. You must not mean it

The child's experience is shallow, and things are often not serious, and they do not know the impact this matter may have on the other party. It's just that I can't control it for a while, and I do this. The child's intentions must not be bad, and he is also sorry for the results .

Many children worry that they will be punished by their parents after making mistakes, and often dare not admit it. If parents tell their children, I believe you must not do it on purpose, it means that they are standing with their children. Tell you the truth of the matter.

2. Everyone makes mistakes, but do you know where your mistakes are?

No one is perfect, and everyone makes mistakes. You can also tell your children about their own mistakes and tell them that making mistakes is also a way to grow. Mistakes are not that terrible, but we must learn from them.

Ask your child gently, do you know where you are going wrong? This is to let children reflect on their own mistakes. Only when they truly recognize their own mistakes can they take the correct way to deal with similar things in the future.

3. No matter what you do, your parents still love you

Some people will tell the child after the child makes a mistake, if you do this again, the mother will not want it. Many parents think that this is just to scare the child, but you don't see the panicked eyes of the child, and the feeling of helplessness arises spontaneously. If you really love your child, you must hug the child and give the child a sufficient sense of security.

No matter what happens, please remember that Mom and Dad are always by your side, even if the child makes mistakes, they can still get their parents' love. Don't deliberately hide your mistakes, admit them bravely, so as to avoid making mistakes next time.

When wise parents face their children's mistakes, they do not force their children to admit their mistakes, but learn to let them take the initiative to admit their mistakes.

1. Like a friend, communicate with your child as an equal

After a child makes a mistake, the parent’s communication method is very important. High pressure forces the child to admit his mistake. On the surface, it seems that the problem has been solved, and the child also admits the mistake. The child has to admit the mistake under the strong authority of the parent. If the importance of the problem is not recognized, it will not be corrected.

Parents should communicate with their children on an equal footing as they would a friend. In -depth understanding of the child's inner thoughts , so as to correctly guide the child to recognize the seriousness of the problem, tell the child the correct way, and encounter similar things, the child will know how to deal with it.

2. Don't hold on to mistakes

No one likes the mistake of always asking others to help them, so they should put it down in time when things have passed. Some mistakes are also unintentional actions of children.

Children also need face, especially in front of everyone. Parents must treat their children as adults and learn to respect them. Save face for your child, and your child will appreciate you from the bottom of your heart.

3. Give each other time to cool down

Children make mistakes, parents are very angry, and their emotions will explode in an instant. In such a situation. You should learn to give each other time to calm down. If you are blindly led by emotions, not only will you not be able to solve the problem, but it will also escalate the conflict, thus affecting the parent-child relationship.

Parents must first calm down and communicate with their children about this matter calmly. The purpose of communication is to make children realize their mistakes, not to escalate conflicts. Parents should reasonably control the situation.

There are no mistakes made in vain. Every mistake is a transformation. Parents do not need to worry about their children making mistakes. Only by continuous trial and error can they find the correct method. When a child makes a mistake, the parent of the child should communicate with the child calmly, so that the child truly realizes the mistake from the heart, and corrects the mistake spontaneously and voluntarily, so as to avoid making the same mistake next time. Are there any children around you who have made mistakes and dare not admit it? What do their parents do? Do you agree with the views in the article? You are welcome to leave a message below.