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Many parents think that children's world is simple, especially interpersonal relationships, but in fact, children are prone to various psychological problems due to frustration in interpersonal relationships.

Moreover, the current campus is a small society for children. Many children will be isolated due to improper handling of interpersonal relationships. Moreover, the current parents' education for children is focused on learning, and many worldly knowledge is not enough. will educate children.

Case study: Children become more and more introverted after being excluded

Colleague Xiao Wang's daughter, Tian Tian, ​​used to be a very outgoing child. She had many friends at school and was loved by her teachers, but during this time, Xiao Wang found that Tian Tian's temperament changed greatly, and she became less and less talkative. , always arguing that he didn't want to go to school, which made Xiao Wang have to wonder if Tiantian had suffered a blow at school.

Seeing that her once lively and laughing daughter has become what she is now, Xiao Wang felt very uncomfortable, so he went to the school to find out the situation. The teacher told Xiao Wang that Tiantian and her friends were having troubles, and now they are all alone Past. Tiantian said that after breaking up with her friends, her friends always spoke ill of her behind her back, and other classmates stopped talking to her, so Tiantian was hit hard now.

What characteristics do children have when they are isolated?

1. Personality changes, emotional instability

Sometimes after a child is isolated, he does not take the initiative to reveal his heart to the parents. If the parents find that the child's personality has changed and the mood has become more and more unstable, they should ask the child if there is a problem with the child's social interaction. If the child always has such characteristics, it will inevitably affect the child's future development.

2. Refuse to socialize

When a child is isolated at school, the child will not like going to school more and more. Psychologists say that the child's isolation is no less than a cold violence, and even the harm caused to the child's heart is equivalent to a substantial sexual violence . This is an unacceptable blow for a child. School is a place for them to escape. These isolated children will gradually refuse to socialize.

3. There is a communication barrier

Generally speaking, a child who is isolated in school will develop a kind of inferiority complex, which will lead him to develop a pleasing personality in the future establishment of interpersonal relationships, which will make him unable to establish normal interpersonal relationships, and cannot establish long-term and stable interpersonal relationships. This causes children to have social barriers. Psychologists have said that children are often isolated, it is difficult to integrate into the group in the future life, and in the future interpersonal communication, they will often be in a passive state.

Once a child is excluded from the collective life, it will not only affect the child's personality change, but also affect the child's psychological development. Therefore, parents must pay attention to whether these characteristics appear in the child. Once they appear, they must help the child in time.

So why are children isolated?

1. Personality cause

Generally speaking, most of the children who are isolated in the group grow up in the doting of their parents, and develop an arrogant and domineering character in the process of growing up, and they are particularly naughty in life and like to make fun of others. When a child interacts with others with this character, it will keep peers away from him for a long time, and this character will also prevent the child from having a true friendship.

2. Too egoistic

It is difficult for children who are too egoistic to gain a good impression in the process of interacting with others. Many children cannot consider problems from the standpoint of others. They only take their own thoughts as the central point, do not consider the thoughts of others, and do not know how to share. Such children will be more selfish in the process of interacting with their classmates, so it is difficult to establish a good friendship.

3. Showing off too much

Some children, because of their family education, become particularly fond of showing off and comparing with others. When playing with their peers, they always like to compare their children with others. This kind of show-off psychology will cause obstacles and troubles in interpersonal communication for children. No matter what, they love to compare themselves with their classmates, and they love to show off what they have. It is difficult for such children to be welcomed by the group, and it is only a matter of time when they are isolated.

Parenting experts said that children's love of showing off is due to a certain degree of lack of family education. Parents' verbal education is not in place, which leads to children's love of showing off and comparing . We all know that parents are the guiding lights in a child's life. For such problems that arise in children themselves, only the words and deeds of parents can change the status quo of children being excluded.

So how can parents help their children get out of isolation?

1. Develop children's social skills

It is very necessary to cultivate children's social skills, which will have an impact on their whole life. When cultivating children's social skills, the most important thing is to learn to respect others and take care of others' emotions in the process of interacting with others. In this way, friends will feel that the child is a caring person, and the child will have more friends. When cultivating children's social skills, parents should start from an early age. First of all, it is necessary to cultivate children's ability to understand emotions, so that children can retell the emotional line of the protagonist in the story.

2. Cultivate children's emotional control ability

Nowadays, many families can do whatever they want due to doting on their children. Most of these bear children are very unstable. In our daily life, we often see these spoiled bear children, such as children who are splashing around in the supermarket. These children are often unable to regulate their emotions. If they freely vent their emotions in the process of interacting with people, they will Friends around me were scared away.

Therefore, parents should teach their children how to regulate their bad emotions. When facing things they don’t like, they can take a deep breath or divert their attention . Every parent should know that they can be used to their children at home, but when their children leave the house, there is no Man is obliged to take care of his emotions.

3. Create a good family atmosphere

A good family atmosphere helps children learn how to communicate with others. If parents often quarrel at home, and even cause a lot of violent problems, it will inevitably affect the child's character development. In this way, the problems that children encounter in interacting with others can only be learned. If there is a quarrel, the problem will not be solved calmly. Therefore, parents must create a good family atmosphere for their growing children, do not quarrel when they encounter problems at home, solve them calmly, and set an example for their children to learn from.

Every child needs to learn how to communicate with others. Interpersonal communication can affect a child's life. Parents should focus on cultivating their children's interpersonal skills while attaching importance to their children's learning. What advice do you have for dealing with children's interpersonal problems? Welcome to leave a message in the comments.