I saw a piece of news on the Internet recently. This news not only touched me, but also touched thousands of netizens. The protagonist of this news is a seven-year-old girl. The little girl's father has been working abroad for a long time, while the little girl and her mother are at home. During the summer vacation this year, the little girl's mother took her out to find her father. The little girl's father usually does some cool work such as pulling and moving goods. On this day, the mother took her daughter to deliver lunch to her father. The daughter happened to see her father carrying the goods. Seeing her father carrying the goods hard and walking with heavy steps, her daughter's eyes were red on the spot.

When I got home, my daughter wrote this letter: "Dad, I love you so much. It turns out that your work is so hard, and the money I usually spend is your hard-earned money. Dad, I feel so sorry for you, see You have worked so hard, and I can't bear to spend your money any more." The little girl's father was very touched when he saw the letter, he took a photo of the letter and posted it on the Internet. After seeing it, netizens burst into tears. eye. Among them, a highly praised netizen said: This father gave the child the best education and let the child know how to be grateful.

From the case, we can see that the father worked tirelessly for the family, and the daughter was very sensible and considerate. She knew how to feel sorry for her father, and she knew how to be grateful to her father. Such a family is the most beautiful . But now many children don't know how to be grateful. They take their parents' efforts for them for granted. So, how do children who don't know how to be grateful grow up?

Parents should know why children don’t understand gratitude

1. It is difficult for parents to never let their children see

In order to love and protect their children, today's parents hope that their children can feel the beauty of life. No matter how hard the parents are, their difficulties will never be seen by their children. Because children never know how difficult it is for their parents, nor how difficult it is for them, they will never understand their parents, nor can they understand their parents, so they don't know how to appreciate their parents.

2. To ask for something from a child

Now many parents, in order to let their children have a good childhood, are reluctant to refuse their children's demands. No matter what their children want, parents will ask for anything from their children . They do not let their children know that it is not easy for their parents to make money. As long as the child needs it, the parents will satisfy him. From childhood to adulthood, parents always ask for anything from him, so that the child does not know how to be frugal, let alone be grateful.

3. Excessive pampering of children

The reason why children do not know how to be grateful also comes from the excessive love of parents for their children . Now the family status of children is very high, the daughter is the little princess at home, the son is the little emperor at home, all the parents are around him, and the parents always give the best to their children. When parents spoil their children too much, the child will feel that he deserves it, and his character will become cold and selfish. There is no gratitude to parents.

How does not knowing gratitude affect children?

1. Lack of empathy

Shakespeare once said: A child who does not know how to be grateful is more painful than the fangs of a viper. Children who don't know how to be grateful are because they didn't know how to put themselves in the shoes of others when they were growing up. Children who don't know how to be grateful lack empathy, they don't know how to appreciate what others have done to them, and children who don't know how to be grateful will not know how to be filial to their parents when they grow up.

2, do not know how to return

Education expert Makarenko once said: "Parents dedicate everything to their children and sacrifice everything for their children. This is the most terrible gift parents give their children. " All will be done for children. This kind of dedication from parents will not move children, and children will not feel that their parents are great. He will only think that parents' such efforts are taken for granted, and this is only the responsibility of parents. Such a child who does not know how to be grateful is not only selfish and indifferent, but also self-centered, does not know how to be grateful, only knows how to ask, but does not know how to return.

3. Lack of responsibility

Parents love their children excessively, treating them like little princesses and little emperors. They don't let their children help with family affairs, and even their own affairs, the parents will do it for them. Parenting in this way will ultimately only raise a child who does not know how to be grateful. A child who does not know how to be grateful regards his parents' love for him as a matter of course, does not know how to repay his parents, and also lacks a sense of family responsibility. Such a child without a sense of responsibility will not be able to achieve great things.

The best education is to teach children how to be grateful

Zhang Zhanyu once wrote in "Time Records": Family love may be the purest feeling in the world. In addition to love and care, it should be grateful.

1. Let children learn to be independent

Children are also independent individuals. Parents should let their children learn to be self-reliant, not to do everything for their children, and not to spoil their children excessively. What children can do by themselves, parents should guide their children to do it independently.

This will not only exercise the child's sense of independence, but also exercise the child's self-care ability, so that the child will learn to be independent . Let the child learn to be self-reliant, and he will have empathy, understand the difficulties of parents, and be grateful to their parents.

2. Use behavior to subtly influence children

If parents want their children to know how to be grateful, they must use their behaviors to influence their children subtly. Parents should set a good example for their children, respect the elders in the family, cherish the fruits of labor, be willing to help others, be compassionate, and be grateful for the help of others.

Parents must know how to respect their children. Without respect, there will be no gratitude. As long as children have high self-esteem, children will learn to respect others. Usually communicate with children in polite words, discuss things with children well, and respect each other in the family, so that children can have a grateful heart.

3. Let the children give love to those in need

Parents can also take their children to participate in some public welfare activities at ordinary times, so that children can understand that "giving is happier than receiving", so that children have great love in their hearts. Parents can bring their child to choose some clothes, toys, etc. that he cannot wear, and go to the welfare home with the child to give these clothes and toys to the children in need.

Parents can also organize their children to make friends with children in poverty-stricken areas, so that children can experience the difficulties of children's life in poverty-stricken areas, and let them know how to cherish their current life. Thereby changing the indifference of the child, and triggering the child's love, cherishing fortune and gratitude.

The educator Locke once said: Those who are not grateful have lost their virtues. Parents must let their children know how to be grateful, and the children will go further and further in the future.

Parents, what do you think about this? Everyone is welcome to interact in the comment area.