People over 25, don't owe three feelings, don't pay three people, don't do three things
25 is an embarrassing age, hovering between ignorance and maturity. Before 25, you were still a child in school. After 25, you graduated from college for 1-2 years or even longer. You are faced with promotions in positions, parents' urging for marriage or the beginning of marriage, and every month for 20 years will start. mortgage repayment. 25 years old seems like life has just begun, in fact, most people have already spent 1/3 of their lives. People walk forward with a heavy load all their lives. When you were 25 years old, you were crowded by the subway crowd and forgot your dreams. You began to miss your 15-year-old student days, because everything was so late. When you were 25 years old, you started to carry weights, so why not when you were 15 years old? It's just that there are two aging middle-aged people behind your back. At the age of 25, it may be time for you to practice these principles.
One, do not owe three loves
(1) Do not owe an affair - if you are married or have a long-term lover, you may complain about each other because of trivial friction. Remember to cherish the people in front of you. It’s getting harder and harder to talk about love after graduating from college. It’s not that you become impure after graduation, and everyone frames themselves in a rule and can’t let go of themselves. It’s hard to fall in love. Don't seek thrills, friction without true love is just pure mechanical movement. There are only 0 and countless times of cheating, it will erode your nerves like poison, and some people feel like eating chicken ribs after trying it, but they want to spit it out, but the taste is in your mouth.
(2) I don't owe strangers - I believe that the world is better than darkness, and there are more good people than bad people. But the favor of strangers cannot be owed casually, especially in the workplace. Colleagues in the workplace are a very vague concept, based on interests but have the feeling of friends. No matter whether you are Party A or Party B, there are always necessary unfamiliar contacts, and some false talks are really asking for help. Within the scope of responsibilities, first of all, the interests of the company must be comprehensively considered. Don't reach out, don't touch your hands, because it's the same as cheating, it's just 0 and countless times.
(3), do not owe relatives - the sixth aunt introduced you to the object again, and the eight aunt introduced the institution to you again. In relationships and in the workplace, first think about whether they really want to help you or your parents. Secondly, is the care of these relatives really suitable for you personally? In most relationships, you don't know if you're suitable until the moment you get married. For most jobs, under the age of 30, you may not know whether you are suitable or not. It is the most suitable for you to choose what you are good at and interested in.
Second, do not pay three people
(1) People who are willing to degenerate do not pay - 25 years old, you will find that among the classmates who graduated in the same class, some people are sitting as department heads with 5-digit high salaries, and some are still holding basic positions with 3 or 4 thousand base salary. As long as these are earned through their own hard work, they are all worthy of respect and recognition. But there are some people who are definitely not worthy of deep friendship. They are willing to degenerate. They obviously have hands and feet and have a good education. Don't ask them to do things because they don't even do their own thing, and don't try to wake them up because you can't wake a person who is pretending to be asleep.
(2), ignorant of the world and love to complain, do not make friends - 25 years old, more and more people know friends, but less and less true friends. Because of distance, being in a different environment, and having a different social circle, you are becoming more and more estranged from old friends. With class friends, you may become increasingly estranged. That's why I never want to test myself, and when something goes wrong, I put the blame on others and the society. To open and close is to complain about the injustice of others and the injustice of this society. Such people are often full of negative energy, and can disturb your good mood and those with far-reaching influence will disturb your forward thinking.
(3) Don't make friends with vulgar people - mediocrity is not wrong, but mediocrity and vulgarity are taboos for people. This kind of person may like to make some inexplicable jokes, and the conversation will rely on dirty jokes to bring you closer to him. They talk all over about making money, how my friends are beautiful, how my relatives are rich, and when they talk about it, they are speechless. At the age of 25, he is in his youth, but he is full of market spirit.
Three, do not do three things
(1) Time-consuming things just for fun - this type of thing refers to people who spend a lot of time on online games or even gambling. Playing games properly can relax the brain and relieve stress, but if you are obsessed with it, in the end, it is not you who play games, it should be games that play you. If you envy other people's salary, then you can learn more professional knowledge; if you envy other people's body, then you can exercise after work. Time is fair, everyone has only 24 hours a day, how can a mediocre person feel that time is ruthless?
(2) Deliberately socializing - many young people feel that college is the time to make friends and expand their network. But the people who just hang out all day, eat, drink and have fun, is it really your network? You desperately want to be a good person and make friends with good people. But friends are mutual, and good people are surrounded by good people. Don't try to please others deliberately, there are only 148 people who can communicate closely in each person's life. If you socialize for the sake of socializing and get into circles that aren't yours, you'll feel as bad as eating flies.
(3) Expose the scars - to yourself, don't show your scars to others easily, you can't get sympathy, although most people will comfort you, but in the end it is up to you to clean up the mess. Don't expose other people's scars. People can tell you their secrets or embarrassing things based on trust. If you use it as a talk, it will only show your naivety. Who doesn't speak behind their backs, who doesn't speak behind their backs?
Where there are some quiet years, it's just that someone is carrying the burden for you. Are you at 25, or at 25, really mature?